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My overarching goal for the year as a wife and a mother is to grow in reliability. I want my husband and my children to know that they can count on me. A few weeks ago I hit a low in this area. I looked around me and felt like much was out of control. School papers to grade had piled up beyond belief. The laundry has been an ever-changing mountain in the laundry room. The house wasn’t as clean or as organized as anyone would like it. Things hit a major traffic jam.
In fact, when I asked my eight-year old how he thought we could improve our family life, he said we should get our stuff in better order. Whoa! Out of the mouths of babes.
You see, there is good reason for my chaos. A little over six months ago we were a family of seven living in Kansas City in a home that we had recently repainted and redecorated. Within six weeks, we added a baby to our family, put our house up for sale, packed up all our earthly belongings, closed our business, moved into a rental home in San Diego, and my husband started a new job as a government employee.
Hey, FishFamily, why don’t you try to do almost all major life changes all at once?!
The last six months have been an adjustment, to say the least. We’ve gone from being privately employed to working a state job. We’ve grown from a family of five children to a family of six. We’ve left a house that we had “tooled up” to fit our family and how we roll and are not completely unpacked here since we plan to purchase a home and move again in another six months.
The train has left the station, and I don’t think I’m on it. Everything that was familiar in terms of routines and organizational systems has disappeared, and I’m standing here with my bags half packed and a puzzled look on my face. I guess you could say, I’m still looking for the “new normal.”
Going through my priorities once again was helpful to me. I feel like I know where I’m going. And while there is no quick fix to my situation, there is a starting place. Long ago an older mom counseled me, “Just put your hands to the next task.” She said that if she didn’t know what to do about a certain situation, she would go wash dishes. She knew that needed doing and while she might not be able to perfectly order her life, she could accomplish something in doing the dishes. And when those were done, maybe the other things would become clearer. If not, at least there was one less thing to be done.
So, this week I’m going to reevaluate what I can do as regards my priorities. I use this sheet to help me organize my tasks in light of my priorities.
Do you have a special trick to getting life in order? Struggling with this, too? Let’s problem solve together. See you in the comments.