Where Joyful and Motherhood Intersect

The corner of Joyful and Motherhood is a beautiful place to be!

Ever find that “joyful” and “motherhood” are going in two different directions?

Crabby moms? Say it ain’t so! But, reality is that sometimes it is difficult to do all you need to do AND keep a smile on your face.

Recently I came across a blog addressing “the fruitless, losing quest for perfection we are pressured to feel as mothers.” Many of us are in pursuit to be a perfect mother, feel pressured to be, desire to be. The phrase kind of struck me upside the head.

To be a perfect anything, let alone a perfect mother is a battle you cannot win.

Perfect mother? What’s that?

It gave me pause and made me think about my own journey as a mom. There have been plenty of nights lying in bed, staring the darkness in the face, and recounting all my failures of the day. I have blown it as a wife, mother, and homemaker more times than  I can count.

But, the thing that was so interesting to me in reflecting on that, is that now — at least this week — I’m not concerned with being “perfect.” Maybe reality has just sunk in, and I know that I will not reach that destination in this lifetime. Instead, my goal these days is to enjoy it! I want to enjoy this season with my husband and kids. And those late-night chagrins often involve repenting of a crabby attitude.

You can imagine that juggling family life in a large household is challenging. My husband calls it, “herding cats.”

Everyone has his own agenda and it can seem impossible at times to get everyone going in the same direction. This can be frustrating.

But, the other day he said, “You know, right now feels crazy. But, I tell myself, they won’t always be like this. And then I realize, THEY WON”T ALWAY BE LIKE THIS! And I find myself nostalic for today! They’re going to be gone before we know it.”

My wise husband hit the nail on the head. Today is fleeing quickly. Whatever season or phase we’re struggling with today will be gone in the blink of an eye. And we don’t want to miss it.

So, forget being Perfect Mom. I just want to be Joyful Mom.

She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
— Proverbs 31:25

What’s hindering you from being a Joyful Mom? What has helped you, encouraged you, motivated you to laugh at the days to come?

– graphic by Katie of GoodLifeEats.

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  1. For me, it's having to do all of the necessary housework that hinders me from being a joyful mom. I'm constantly folding, cleaning, wiping up, or doing something that takes away from the fun of being a mom.

    I've been trying to get the kids to help out but they know it's not fun to clean.

  2. Your post definitely struck a chord – thanks! I'm going through a VERY difficult season of my "mommy" life and it's very hard to find joy, but it IS a choice. My husband is deployed and I'm 33 weeks pregnant with our third child – and I was just put on bed rest. Wow! My life is far from perfect right now – my house is a mess, my patience is thin, but I can put all that aside and be joyful in my circumstances. Thanks for the reminder!

  3. balancing — the chores, work, and the stress of running the home. i'd much rather play with my kids when they're awake but feel overwhelmed at the aftermath when they're finally in bed! :-)

  4. Marie@Beginning, Meet End says:

    Boy, I needed to read that this week! Thanks for reading (and calming!) my mind.

  5. momstheword says:

    When the kids were little and I had days where I felt like pulling my hair out, I tried to just slow down and enjoy the moment.

    I tried to remember that these moments wouldn't last forever, and I tried to just stop a minute and take a breathe.

    What robbed me of my joy was my own expectations. I had to slow down, relax, and learn to laugh at the interruptions and the messes and the minor disasters that came up, and to remember that the world wouldn't fall apart if dinner was late, or the house wasn't as perfect as I wanted it to be.

  6. I needed this too! Balancing everything is hard for me too. Thanks for reminding me I want to be joyful mom.

    Emily

  7. I don't take myself too seriously and just enjoy what I bring to the table (literally and figuratively:-)

  8. That's soooooooooooooooooo true! The time spent with them is so very fleeting. I thoroughly enjoyed reading your blog. Way to go! Thank God for our blessings as we call them each by name (or by each other's names).

  9. I just stumbled over here from HomespunHeart and am loving your encouraging words!!

    Abbey… I have been exactly in your shoes and will be praying for you. I was pregnant with baby #3 during my husband's 2nd deployment. I clicked on your name but can't contact you directly through blogger, so I will have to post here. Joy in your season is very challenging, but know this — the Lord has a very special heart for those whose husbands are away, and whose children are (temporarily) without a father. I will be praying that you feel the very presence of the Lord in the weeks to come. He will draw near to you in your time of need. I know this because the times my husband is gone are the times I most clearly feel and see God directing my steps.

    FishMama — thank you for seeking Joy in all seasons of motherhood. Your site will be a great encouragement to many of my mommy friends.

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  11. Amen, sister! We’re in this together :) Thanks for sharing!

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