Get a Good Habit Going Challenge: Don’t Compare to Others


This month we’re working on good and new habits. Before things get really crazy in December, November is a fantastic time to get a little order and happiness going. Next month has a chance at smooth moving, if Mom feels a little more on the ball.

I’ve been working on routines around here. Now, I have a choice. I can look at other women and how they do it soooooooooooo much better than I. Or I can look at me, look at where I want to be, and make efforts to get there, Lord willing.

You see, that temptation to compare ourselves to other women is so strong. I’m not sure why it is, but it is pervasive, is it not?

The funny thing is that we compare what we see on our insides to what we see on their outsides. Those are not the same things. You don’t know what she struggles with. You don’t know where she’s weak.

And even if she is “better” than you at something, that doesn’t make you “less.” It makes you different. And that is a good thing. A very good thing. If you’re going to compare, compare yourself to you last week. last month. last year.

While I’m nowhere near where my ideal would be, I am making progress, baby step by baby step. And instead of comparing to my friends, I’ve asked for help. One friend and I check in with one another at least once a week to help each other tow the line.

It started with going to bed earlier. Like three hours earlier than I normally was. For some reason I’d gotten into the very bad habit of staying up to 12 or 1 each night, long past the kids and my husband were already in bed. Yet, I was still waking at least once in the night with FishBaby and trying to get up early each morning. Curbing my bedtime has been really helpful. In fact this weekend, the guys were gone for an overnighter so I felt the freedom to stay up late. Boy! Did I pay for it the next day. After having turned in at 9 or 10 each night for a few weeks, I really noticed that it made a difference.

Another area that I’ve needed to reign under control is the computer, both a blessing and a curse. Despite my best efforts at limiting myself to 30 minutes in the morning, I had to admit to myself that I just can’t turn it on in the morning. Thirty minutes become three hours. And so, until I have a little better self-control, I need to stick to my day job.

This week’s plan?

  • go to bed early
  • stay offline until after school work is complete
  • AND…. get the family back on track with our morning high five. We’ve been sick and so kids and routines have fallen by the wayside.

How are you making progress on your new and good habits? I can’t wait to hear!
(Don’t forget! Next week, post about your experience and link up with Mr. Linky.)

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  1. I am blessed! says:

    I've been starting school with my older kids at 6 am. This is definitely an adjustment, but it frees up our afternoons which has been lovely. (Mainly, it allows us to have an extra hr before the 3 and 1 yr olds wake up.)

  2. Artystitches says:

    you sound like me those are my bad habits! and you have made me think now lol!

  3. I would leave a comment, but I need to turn off my computer and get my work done…that and the late nights are my kryptonite.

  4. So far this month I've cleaned out 5 boxes from our move-in stash, 1 laundry basket that I'd used to catch things when company came over (I won't tell you how long it had been sitting there full!), cleaned out 2 'hot spots' that had been driving me crazy and finished 2 previously half-done sewing projects and made progress on 2 more!

    I'm also making progress on my 5 loose ends at school, though none of them are 'done' yet.

    I'm also planning on getting my blog up and running for Dec 1 so I can use that as accountability rather than posting comments!

    Doing one specific thing a day has helped me – 'add binding to baby quilt' works better than just 'baby quilt'. One or two boxes per week. 2 specific school things per day – 'add references' or 'add 10 papers to annotated bibliography'. Works for me!

    Whoo hoo!
    Thanks Fishmama for hosting this! I'm loving it!
    :)
    Lea

  5. I, too, and really enjoying this series! This week it's just continuing with getting/keeping the same habits going – going to bed earlier, getting the List done every day, and I'm also working on 1 "Monster Project" each week. Last week it was the checkbook and budget. This week will be the freezers. Next week will either be Christmas shopping, the baby's room, or our room.

  6. MommyJules says:

    Wow this post couldn't come at a better time for me personally. I am kinda new at blogging, couponing, being a Mommy and housewife….all while working a full time job. I find myself comparing myself to EVERYONE! I always find myself saying "where do they find time to do this and that.." I had a "sit down" with myself after reading your post and realized, I do a lot and like you mentioned I should compare myself to where I was a month ago! I feel so much better now and I am going to bookmark this post so that when I am feeling overwhelmed with comparision… I turn to your sweet and incouraging words. Thank you again!!

  7. This is a great challenge. I am totally that mom who compares herself to other moms. Three things I am going to work on: organizing my things–from tupperware to bills to kids' socks; keeping my patience; staying off the computer when I'm supposed to be doing other things like cleaning my house or playing with my kids…like right now. Oops. I'll have to get back to you on what good habits I come up with.

  8. I found your blog looking for freezer meal ideas / recipes / tips, and just now I noticed this about getting a good habit going. I have been terrible at doing dishes since my husband got sick, and our dishwasher doesn't clean very well anymore so handwashing it is… Anyway a couple weeks ago I was doing the dishes after having not done them for a week and I decided that I was going to do them every day after every meal. That might seem excessive dishwashing for one person but it was more about developing the habit. So since then I have been really good at getting the dishes done after every meal even if I'm only washing a single plate, fork and cup. The habit is forming, and last night was a good example… My supper took longer to make and more dishes than I intended it to, and I was tired and cranky… but I could not bring myself to go sit down in the living room til the dishes were done!

    Let's hope the habit continues as I face the most difficult time of the year. :(

  9. Denise C. says:

    I’m going to be brutally honest here. BRUTAL. I have 2 kids. Just 2. I always seem to get overwhelmed by the smallest things that they do or say. NOT. GOOD. AT. ALL. My new habit, (which this habit/reaction has been with me for as long as I can remember), is to do this: when child #1 or #2 does not listen to me when he/she is asked to do something- DO NOT GET MAD, OR UPSET. Take a step back, deep breath & KEEP CALM.
    Keeping calm is a struggle I have DAILY & one that really needs to get in place.
    Any others out there with some friendly advice? :)

    • Denise C. says:

      My new habit is to take a deep breath, step back & keep calm.

      Old habit- get angry or upset, overwhelmed.

      Not enough caffeine today. :)

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