Take A Walk Down Memory Lane

Sarah and me, France 1992

Today is Sarah’s birthday. We knew one another in college. We spent a year in France together as exchange students. Forever getting herself into hilarious situations, Sarah could make me laugh like no one else as she recounted her mishaps in a humorous, self-effacing way. She had a gift for writing that I could only dream of. I was sure she would write the Great American Novel one day. She was one of the most talented women I ever met — and one of the most truly humble. She never made a big deal out of herself.

Sarah died five years ago, leaving behind her husband and two young children. She died after receiving a fatal head injury. Today she would have been 38.

I think of Sarah often. I miss her terribly. We didn’t talk on a regular basis; we weren’t “everyday friends.” But when we did get together, it was like a day hadn’t gone by. The richness and depth of friendship was there. We always picked up where we left off. She always encouraged me. She always made me laugh.

Oh, how I miss her.

And my mind goes to the saying my mom had when we were young:

Love one another with a little added tenderness for the days of life are short.  – Author Unknown

Who can YOU call today? Walk down memory lane. Catch up. Laugh.

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  1. Sunnie in NC says:

    That is so sad—did Sarah’s daughter survive??
    Is her family doing well?
    Sunnie

    • Jessica Fisher says:

      @Sunnie in NC, yes, her daughter was fine. I am not sure how they are doing, but I pray for them often. Sarah’s sister found one of my baby announcements among Sarah’s things, and she was the one who contacted me afterward. The sad part about “not everyday friends” is that you might not know when someone is ill or hurt.

  2. I can call my friend Mindy! She is exactly the person that can catch up with me like no time has gone by! I love your Mom’s quote, it is very true. My mom used to always tell me to tell people how you feel today, because you may never get the chance tomorrow. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Oh that is so sad. I am so sorry about your friend. I can call my best friend (other than my husband of course). We met the first day of kindergarten. We don’t talk everyday because we seem to constantly be going in different directions, but we have always been there for each other in the good times and the bad and I love her like she was my sister.

  4. I just had a chance to see my grandfather whom I had not seen in 5 years to catch up. He was able to meet my children and even though he didn’t know who I was I felt better that we got that chance because you never know what may happen. I learned this lesson early on when my father died when I was 8, you make sure the people around you know how much you love them and you say it often because life is unexpected and you may not be here tomorrow. To this day my brother, mom and myself end every call with I love you, we even got my grandmother to say it now! My heart goes out to her family and yours today. I will say a prayer to give you all strength.

  5. Sounds like a GREAT friendship!!

  6. Thanks for sharing. You are such a giving person with you life experiences and help to make me take a step back and think….my dear friend Jessica will be hearing from me.

  7. So tragic. A life cut way too short. It is nice that you wrote a post about her.

  8. how sad! I bet if you wrote down some memories and including pictures it would be a gift your friend’s children would treasure – to see their mom in a different way!

    I have a friend whom I worked with years ago – we actually never talk, we just write and its occurred to me that I haven’t heard from her in awhile. We can go months without “talking” but each time I see a letter in the mailbox from her, I tuck it on my nightstand for savoring when the house is quiet. I will write her a letter this week!

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