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Some people love it. Some people hate it. Some don’t quite know what it is.

Personally, I love going to my Facebook page and getting advice, encouragement, and entertainment from the folks I’ve met. Plus, I’ve reunited with old friends from high school and college, too, as well as far-off relatives.

Inquiring minds want to know

Do you facebook?

And if you do, what are the benefits that you get from active participation on facebook? If you don’t, what keeps you away?

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  1. I do! I love it! I have gotten to reconnect w/old friends, made friends w/those I either didn’tknow well or … well.. didn’t know well :) & we have started a local running club & keep up w/where & when each practice is thru a group on Facebook.

  2. I do not. I fear it’d become a time-suck for me and I wouldn’t have the appropriate discipline. (And perhaps my attention span is more suited to Twitter? ;)) I will confess, though… there are times when I feel I’m missing out on things or I’m not “in the circle”.

  3. I don’t. I have an account, but just couldn’t stay interested.

  4. Yes! It’s been a great tool for re-connecting with high school friends, college friends, and even some family. And, it’s a quick way for friends and family to catch up on pictures of our 8 month old and 20 month old! It’s also vital for staying culturally relevant as a youth pastor’s wife who is very involved with the high school students, in particular. It’s meeting them where they are and it’s good for accountability and staying on top of life with them!!

  5. I do not have an account. I feel like at this time in my life I don’t need another computer time-sucker. Also, maybe this is bad, but I’m not really interested in reconnecting with anyone from high school :)

    Sometimes I do feel out of the loop. I’ll hear something that’s new to me and the person will say, “well I put it on facebook.” Oh, well.

  6. Love Facebook mostly for the connection that I can have during the day with people. Being a stay at home, homeschooling mom means I talk to kids all day as you well know. It’s great to connect with adults and to be encouraged, give encouragement and get new ideas. And of course, keep up with Life as Mom!

    • Adult interaction of some kind, while at home with kids is a MUST! I NEED it EVERYDAY, more so when my husband has to work late! :)

  7. I like facebook, I took a bit of a hiatus a year & a half ago, I was spending way too much time on it (mostly with games & reading everyone’s updates). I’ve streamlined it now. No games, chatting with old friends. I “liked” both your blogs! :)

    It was great to reconnect with old friends, & connect with new ones.

    On another note, my husband & I watched The Social Network, it was interesting to see how Facebook started.

  8. My husband and I both decided not to do Facebook. Both of our parents livein the same houses and have the same phone numbers from when we grew up. I feel if people want to contact me there are many ways to get my current information.
    Also like what was stated above, I have many friends that spend hours a day on Facebook. I don’t need another excuse to be online.
    Great question! Always love your posts.

  9. I gave it up last April. It was fun during college but is no longer useful, just a waste of time and don’t like the privacy issues associated with it.

  10. We use it to keep up with family thats far away.

  11. I love Facebook. I don’t play any of the games or take the quizzes or any of the other “time-wasters.” But I love the chance to keep tabs easily on what my friends are up to.

    My women’s small group is also organized through Facebook. We have a private group and it is The Way we communicate with each other!

    I appreciate the ability to post a quick note on someone’s wall. It says “I’m thinking of you” without requiring the investment of time to write an email. Sometimes I don’t have a whole email or phone call’s worth of information to share — or it’s a person with whom I don’t communicate regularly. But leaving a quick comment on something they posted, for example, is a great low-key way to stay in touch.

  12. I agree this is a massive invasion or privacy wrapped in a pretty wrapper telling folks it is a great way to connnect with friends and family but all it truly is
    ( a way to collect massive amounts of information on folks in our society)

  13. I do Facebook. My children talked me into it. I like being able to hear a little about the lives of those I don’t get to see often. I also love being able to wish people “Happy Birthday!”

  14. I got started on FB back in 2007 – when none of our U.S. friends were using it yet. A South African friend told us about it and that’s why we signed up – a wonderful way to keep up with friends all over the world. Then it took off like a fire among our U.S. friends and when we moved back to the States in December ’08, I got totally sucked in. I didn’t have a job (outside the house) and we don’t have kids and I didn’t have a car, so I used FB to connect with people.

    It turned into a ministry in a lot of ways, but over the last two years it has become a total time hog. I have allowed it to become too much of a time waster. Totally my fault. So one of my (until now) unspoken 2011 resolutions was to only check FB once a week (on the week-ends). I haven’t been totally successful, but my time away from it HAS been good and I like not feeling like I HAVE to check it daily.

    One positive thing that came from it was a small accountability group. When one of the women left FB, we continued it via “old fashioned” email and it’s been a great source of encouragement.

    Another positive has been growing my blog readership as I use Networked Blogs to automatically post my lastet blog post on FB without me having to get on to share them. People still see that I’m posting, but I don’t have the “excuse” to get on FB to share my latest blog rantings. I have also shared recipes in the past with the Notes feature.

    I am careful about what I share on there and try to limit a lot of personal information (like birthdays, where we work, live, etc.). The thing is, I know the government and even other people don’t need something like FB to get that information, so I’m not paranoid about it – I just try to be careful. I don’t want anything to come back and bite us (like saying something about where either of us work). You just have to use some common sense and have some self-control. :-)

  15. I would like to be able to access some of the product offers on it, but am unwilling to trade my privacy for them. I also believe that for me it is more rewarding to focus on ” in-person” relationships rather than trying to “keep up” with all of the random information posted on so many people. But to each his own!

  16. I use facebook. I check on it maybe 3 or 4 times per week but I don’t play games on it. I just check out what my friends are saying. I spend maybe 10 or 15 minutes if I decided to look up the video they are referencing but I don’t when I dont’ have time. I have found it a great way to give people messages that are on it a lot. I was able to help someone I don’t see often with some breastfeeding info for her baby in the NICU and otherwise I wouldn’t have known what was going on with her. I don’t play games on it and it is a great way to get coupons too. I don’t consider it a time waster, it helps save time when I can comment on something or send a message to someone quickly.

  17. I resisted FB for a long time, mostly because I felt I was in touch with the people who I wanted to be in touich with, and I wasn’t interested in digging up every individual I had ever known. Since I joined (about a year ago) it hasn’t been quite what I wanted it to be, but it serves its purpose. I post very little and never upload pictures or anything, so I’m not concerned about privacy. I have my profile locked down pretty hard according to the options available. I guess I’m saying it’s ok, but if it crashed tomorrow or became and expensive subscription or something, I wouldn’t miss it much.

  18. I Facebook and I like it. I’m a PK so I’ve lived in several states and it’s nice to chat with old friends. I’ve resolved not to get involved in all the silly FB games so it doesn’t suck up too much time. I do, however, LOVE to FB stalk my friends photos. :D

  19. I do! (I’m quirkyjessi there.) I love being able to connect with an extremely diverse group of people and always having someone who has an opinion or support for this or that. I also use it as a way to see what others have been writing or experiencing, so I’m often clicking links and following stories that people share.

  20. I FB as a way to keep up with far away family and friends. I also link it to my blog. I check in and out quickly on my iPhone and don’t play the games as I don’t have time to get sucked in!!!

  21. I love Facebook. I’ve reconnected with highschool and college friends. I also love it for freebies and coupons!!!

  22. LOVE FaceBook. It allows me to stay connected with my friends, plan activities, and keep in touch with my sister and her family who live out of state. I do have a page for my blog, but it’s not super active. I’m more active in “bloggyland” via Twitter.

  23. I don’t play games or do quizzes, I use Facebook to keep up with my friends and family. I love that I know what’s going on in their daily lives, not just the things we think are worth mentioning in a rare letter or phone call. And it’s great for sharing pictures of fun stuff like kids.

  24. I have a love/ hate relationship with it… but truly, it’s mostly love.

    I don’t play any games or use any applications, but I really like keeping in touch with everyone in a simple way (I’ve never been a phone person). The hate part comes from the addictiveness of it. My laptop sits on my counter so I can receive work emails and those from my husband through the day, but I check in on the news feed more often than I should. Every now and then I unplug, and that makes me feel like I’m balancing things a bit better.

  25. I love the reconnection with old high school and college friends. It’s fun to look in on their lives and see what their kids look like. And it’s a great outlet for the stay at home mom. Much needed during the day.

  26. I enjoy using FB for personal and professional reasons (keeping separate profiles for each, of course). My husband also uses it to promote special events at his comic store–it’s a great way to get the word out because it’s easy to share info and invite others to stuff.

    But you do have to use discipline and self-control…can’t expect these qualities from the kids if we don’t portray them ourselves!

  27. If by, “Do you Facebook?” you mean, “Are you hopeless addicted to getting on Facebook, not only to see your friends and family but to play that stupid Farmville game,” then yes. Yes, I Facebook. lol

  28. In the past I liked it and would check in a few times a week but I also thought that it was kind of silly.

    However, a few weeks ago our 2 month old daughter was hospitalized for RSV and was very ill. I posted on FB for prayers for her and within a very short period of time there were literally hundreds of people who were praying for her through out the country and worldwide. It was amazing!

  29. LizAndrsn says:

    I FaceBook out of necessity — 2 teenagers in the house and a large, younger than me set of siblings all need watching.

    I figure FaceBook is a lot like Lady Gaa-Gaa: if you’re over a Certain Age it just doesn’t make any sense. It works for me, at least!

  30. I am an “all in” kind of gal and definetly worry about becoming obsessed with checking in all the time. I beat myself up for not getting enough done during the day so this would be one more distraction for me. I do have to agree with JessieLeigh above I do have times that I feel I might be missing out on the fun! Plus I guess I stay away due to lack of knowledge about Facebook! Who knows what’s next!!!

  31. You bet I do! Being a busy mom my friends and I keep in touch during the day with facebook. We make playmates, plan mommy nights, and share amusing kid stories. Being a stay at home mom it is a great way to stay connected.

  32. I was on facebook for about 3 years…no games, no extras, but it was still a time suck. It also irritated my hubby, so he offered to buy me a super duper camera for incentive to cut down on computer time. Worth it! :) I miss it lots, but I spent too much time on it–not facebooks fault, but I had to do what I had to do!

  33. Most folks I know credit facebook for helping them stay connected with friends far away or from the past or family who do not live nearby. While I’ve enjoyed reconnecting with some (very few) old friends and I love keeping up with my family easily through fb, I mostly enjoy the sense of community this social network brings to my mom friends within my home school group and church. LOVE posting pics of our outings and then talking about them under picture comments. LOVE knowing their birthdays. LOVE their status updates because these are people God has placed me in community with. I’d say 95% of the comments I receive on facebook for anything are from my friends that I will see within the week. It has brought my 1500 member church closer.

    Along the same lines, I can quickly invite moms to coffee when I’m out. Last week I posted I planned to take my 3 year old skiing and I was overwhelmed with great tips and gear for her! I didn’t even ask and was blessed with everything I needed! I’ve seen needs posted and filled very quickly over an over again. Facebook can be a wonderful tool!

    Yet… there is another side. Facebook can create a “false reality.” It can make it seem like everyone has fun but you. When every social event is documented and status updates all seem so blissful, one can wonder, “Why does my life stink?” Personally, I am not prone to thinking that way, but teens certainly are. It’s hard to see pics of the party you didn’t attend or “wall to wall” mush that you weren’t invited to join. Facebook can create a false intimacy. It can make folks who’ve never even met appear to be best friends.

    As a mom of teens, I am glad I have fb. It keeps me tuned in a little better to not only my children’s lives, but my children’s friends as well. And – I like facebook for me too (not just as a protective mommy.) Yet, I tend to spend more time focusing on my REAL friends in facebook land as opposed to folks I’ve not seen in 20 years or even never met.

  34. I LOVE FACEBOOK. I find myself on it too much and have to take a break. But I was able to reconnect with my brother (we didn’t grow up together) and due to his work schedule it’s hard to just pick up the phone and call him. I love that! I love seeing my friends more often, at our convenience, via Facebook.

  35. I have a FB acct, but hardly ever use it. Funny thing is I actually reconnected with my high school sweetheart (we had split because at 17 and 18 we weren’t mature enough to endure a 1700 mile forced seperation). We have always loved each other though, but lost contact because it was too hard emotionally at the time.

    We’ve both been through a marriage and a divorce each. Since we’ve been reconnected for almost a year now there hasn’t been a day that we haven’t talked and he has come to see me and my kids twice. First for a week and second for 8 weeks.

    Sometime in the Spring I will be moving back home to Cali so that we can finally be together and get married. It’s made me the happiest I’ve been since 17 (I’m 29). My son (5) asked me one day about a month after we started talking again why I was laughing so much and had been so happy. He had never seen me as happy as I am now (or then). Needless to say that it made me cry that my kids had never really experienced me being truly happy. They and I deserve to be happy.

    Back to FB though, it is useful for reconnecting with those that mean something to you, but you can’t let it take you away from the present either.

  36. I don’t and honestly see it as leading to nowhere good. The amount of time people spend on there, the forum it gives for anyone to announce any thought they might have, the relationships that might have been better left in the past, and the very way it’s changing the way people communicate–I think it’s all dangerous. A friend is responsible for interviewing new college grads and he’s shocked by these kids inability to have a simple face to face conversation and believes it’s in large part to things like facebook that completely cut out the risk of calling someone or actually speaking to someone.

  37. I do! It is a great way to stay in contact with my family across the country, close friends that I don’t get to talk to or see near enough, and old friends that I would otherwise be out of touch with. I love the variety of life views and personalities. It definitely provides some goodness to my day.

  38. Mary E.S. says:

    I like it to keep in touch with family and friends.Hubby does the Farmville thing but I mainly use mine for freebies and coupons.I hate that so many of the bloggers that I follow are going to Twitter. I did FB to enter the contests and now all I see is follow me on Twitter.No, I don’t think so.

  39. I do Facebook but I have to say that I take more than I receive. I only post my blog posts.

  40. I used to like MySpace much better…then everyone deleted their accounts and moved to FB and I was on MS all alone…so I moved to FB too. I went back to my MySpace recently and they’ve changed the site all around and I hate it. So, yes, I’m all about FB now. I like it for keeping in touch with my friends/family that are out-of-town (my 80 year old Grandma is on FB!).

    Blogwise, I do have a FB page and my posts are sent there automatically which works great…but I don’t really have time to network on there (or Twitter) since I’m too busy with the blog itself. Hopefully some day I’ll get my act together and be able to balance it all…but I’m not too worried about it for now.

  41. I’m not crazy about it. I have an account and I check in on it once in awhile-mainly because it seems most people don’t email but use Facebook instead. I kind of think it is boring and one of those things where people sort-of hype themselves all the time.

    I don’t play the games or quizzes. But it is nice to see a pic of a friend or their kids every once in awhile.

  42. I do and I love it! I keep in touch with family that lives far away. I’ve lived all over the country and I can ‘visit’ with all my friends. I am also very political, so I have a ton of groups that I belong to and can see what’s going on in the world. As a homeschooling Mom, I also have homeschool contacts and access to new ideas.

  43. I do not. My friends tease me a little, but it honestly does not bother me. I know myself well enough to say “no” to this one. I know that I could spend hours every day just reading blogs, etc. It is such a temptation for me. I know that if I joined Facebook, we would never have hot food or clean underwear! :) I homeschool and I am very involved in our church, so my free time is very limited. I know plenty of you somehow manage all of those things AND Facebook, but my computer is my Achilles heel. I guess we all have our struggles; mine just happens to be time management (when it comes to the internet), oh, and chocolate! :)

  44. I LOVE Facebook…a little too much. I deleted my account after it got more attention than my house, my husband and my kids did. I really feel good about that decision. Maybe in the future I’ll go back.

  45. I do enjoy FB, it’s such a great way to keep up with friends and family, now I just need to kick my Mafia Wars addiction!

  46. I’m happy you asked this. I’ve been struggling with whether or not I wanted to deactivate my account…far too many personal facebook issues for me to list! But after reading the responses, I deactivated it. Thank you.

  47. Personally I like facebook. I don’t use it to talk to family but my friends use it, including old friends who aren’t near me anymore. Without it some of those friends and I would have lost contact years ago.

    It kind of bugs me when I hear people blame social media for problems that have started to crop up. I mean, if your teenager is losing their ability to communicate effectively then its up to you, the parent, to step in and change that.

    Facebook and Twitter have allowed us to connect globally. Footage has gotten out during riots, floods, and all kinds of disasters that we never would have known about in the past. We don’t need to hear the censored versions anymore. We can get our information direct for the source.

    In response to one comment, being allowed to speak your mind is not a bad thing. It’s a civil liberty and I personally enjoy having this new sounding board for own ideas. Through these medias I’ve talked with a Muslim man in Chicago, an Iranian living in Canada, some of my favorite authors, and moms throughout the world. I’m grateful for these opportunities. I understand limiting these things with children but as adults there’s so much we can use them for.

    And, of course, the games aren’t half bad either. ^_^

  48. I “liked” earlier because I didn’t have two hands free to comment…but I use facebook, I just by default limit it to catching up a few times a week (for real…sometimes it’s only once a week). It has sucked me in and sucked up too much time in the past but it’s not now. Mostly it’s just fun to see what old friends are up to…otherwise I would have totally lost track with loads of people!

  49. Wow.. paranoid?

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