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Laughing at the Days to Come

She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
— Proverbs 31:25

Traditionally, I’ve been a worry wart. I’ve gotten better with age. I’ve seen some hard things. I’ve cried tears. While the “worst” hasn’t happened, enough hard stuff has come our way and we’ve survived it, that I’m starting to see that worry really isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be.

That doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t take hard things seriously. Illness, death, debt — none of these are good things. When you’re walking through it, it stinks pretty bad. Been there, done that.

But, as I look back over the last 20 years since God found me, I realize that 9 times out of 10, it really didn’t turn out as bad as I feared it would. In fact, the worry and the stress was a waste.

Such a waste.

Time, money, emotion, thoughts, days, sleep — all were wasted worrying over the could haves, the should haves, the maybes. When in reality, one, two, ten years down the road, it really did all work out.

The thing that didn’t work out? My mother-in-law died. Cancer seemingly won. At least in the here and now. But, we know she’s with Jesus, feeling no pain and worshipping at His throne. I am confident she is happy.

And now that I think back to the time, the emotion, the sleep lost in worry over what would happen to her? I wish I could reclaim it and spend it on her, instead. Wish that I had enjoyed her more. Wish that we had laughed together more.

I wish I hadn’t wasted it.

What if…

My husband often asks, “How would you act about (this current stressor) if you knew it would work out okay in the end?”

I can’t know how it will all turn out in the end. I can’t know that it will all work out. But, if I walked in faith, knowing that He does have all things in His hands, knowing that He will work them for our good and His glory, I imagine that there would be a lot less stress and worry. There’d be strength and dignity. There’d be more laughter.

I want that.

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  1. Wow – it’s as if you looked into my heart and soul and pulled out the words I have been searching for. Thank you. :)

  2. My husband accepted a job in another state and has been there 2 1/2 months and in another 2 1/2 months the kids and I will join him there. Our house hasn’t sold. We are renting another house in the new state. I’m sitting here this morning, trying to juggle two houses and three checking accounts, and worrying. Thank you.

  3. Wow..what a timely post :) Thanks for the extra encouragement! The Lord is calling us to move down south very soon and it is hard to not “worry” how this will all work out. But in Him, it will all work together for our good and He will make a way :)

  4. One of my favorite sayings regarding worrying is: Worrying is like a rocking chair, neither get you anywhere, but they both give you something to do.

  5. Thank you for this post!

    My dear sweet stepmom passed away suddenly in September. We we obviously all heart broken but found peace in knowing that she too is at Jesus’ feet.

    Two weeks ago we found out that my mother in law has breast cancer, stage four that has gone to her liver and bones. It is difficult not to worry. I worry about her but I also worry about us. I know that it is so selfish but I can’t imagine life without her.

    I just keep praying.

    Thank you for the reminder, that I need to spend my energy celebrating life with her now!

  6. I want that, too! Thanks for this encouragement, Jessica.

    Jamie

  7. This meant a lot. In November, I gave birth to twins and unfortunately also went into congestive heart failure due to something called peripartum cardiomyopathy. I go back and forth between being optimistic– living as if everything will be OK– and worrying that I will never recover or worse, die and leave my little ones. Every day I challenge myself to remember that no matter what happens, everything will be OK, and that the Lord is holding us all in the palm of His hand. Thank you for the encouragement. I am trying so hard not to waste time with worry!

  8. Meredith says:

    Thank you. Like the first commenter, I felt a deep connection with what you said. I have been finding great comfort in your blog and this is one more shining example!

  9. Eva Gorton says:

    Thank you for the post, it was very helpful. I am a worrier too. I am working on not worrying so much but it can be hard. I am trying to lean on the Lord when I worry.

  10. Lisa Sayre says:

    I have done the same thing. My Mom was diagnosed with lung cancer in May of 98 and was gone by August, 98. I wish I have lavished more of my time on her instead of worry. That same year my husband lost his job in the military due to a back injury. He has had five surgeries. We lost our house, and my car. Then my Grandmother was diagnosed with lung cancer. She last four and a half years with no treatment. I moved her in with me the last 6 weeks of her life. I had learned from my Mom’s passing. So I did spend some really good time with my Grandmother. In June 2008 we adopted our 4 year old Grandaughter. Since then I have been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and a rare autoimmune disease called Dermatomysositis. Two months ago our Grandaughter was diagnosed with Tpye one Diabetes. This was the hardest thing we have been through so far. Sticking that precious baby over and over everyday. It has been one thing after another. But I look back and at the time did not know how we would make it through. On the other side I see God was carrying me. He always takes care of us. Times are hard right now for everyone. We all just have to keep looking up!

  11. Discussed worrying at church this past sunday. Psalm 37:
    1 Do not fret because of those who are evil
    or be envious of those who do wrong;
    2 for like the grass they will soon wither,
    like green plants they will soon die away.

    3 Trust in the LORD and do good;
    dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.
    4 Take delight in the LORD,
    and he will give you the desires of your heart.

  12. Elizabeth J. says:

    thanks for the inspiration!!! :)

  13. I wanted to let you know I included this post in my “Weekend Round-Up” here:
    http://ourseasonsofjoy.com/weekend-round-up/weekend-round-up-7/

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