Just Be You (Frugal Friday)

Feel right in your skin. Be you. It won’t cost you a dime.

In our culture, we spend a lot of time and money trying to be that which we’re not. I imagine that between the make-up, the surgeries, the weight loss programs, and the self-help industries, we spend a lot of time, money, and mental energy trying to change ourselves.

Now, I’m not against change. I think I have a lot of weaknesses, even sinful tendencies, that could do with a good dose of change. Change, in many instances, is very, very good.

There are other areas, though, where we fret and worry and try to be somebody we’re not. We feel pressure to keep up with the Joneses, to become the Hostess with the Mostest, to outdo someone on the Church or School Committee.

We don’t feel right in our own skin, so we try to be someone else.

And yet, we’ll save a lot of money — and a few worry lines — if we accept some of our own innate personality traits and preferences.

I don’t love sports. I don’t wear make-up. And I think that Pumpkin Spice Lattes sound (and taste) gross. Athletic clothes, excessive make-up purchases and PSLs are just not how I spend my money.

I don’t like lying or being lied to, so I keep my social circle small. I’ve been burned before, in part, because I tried to fit someone else’s mold of how I should dress, think, or ask. It was a costly mistake, but one I’ve learned quite a bit from.

I don’t have to pretend. I can be me. Being me doesn’t cost anything. I’d have to pay a price to be somebody else. And I’m not sure it’s worth it.

Being me is a great way to stop and smell the roses.

The days are long, but the years are short. I don’t want to miss them! For more short and sweet ideas on how to stop and smell the roses, to enjoy the little things in life, check out my 31 Days to Smell the Roses series.

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  1. Good point! It requires a great deal of self-knowledge and maturity to know and accept who you are, but the process is totally worth it, financially and also in many other ways.

  2. I really like this. Really enjoy reading your stop and smell the roses posts!
    For the linky, I’m #20 – We’ve been doing the INSANITY workout program on about $50/week.

  3. Excellent thought :) I agree it takes maturity – my 14yo daughter has it in spades – her 48 yo father still struggles with it [to some extent exacerbated by career requirements] and I work hard at it.

    Isn’t it funny how the trying to fit in just makes you feel wrong? Good feedback to watch out for . . .

  4. I laughed out loud reading about the pumpkin latte. I too think it sounds gross, wear make up about once a month for work, and consistently wear my $1 flip flops from Old Navy. :)

  5. Oh, your comment about pumpkin spice lattes made me laugh. I don’t care for them either.

  6. I could have written this. There are a lot of things I don’t care about that other people think I should. I don’t care about Smart phones and don’t own one, makeup, and generally all the ‘latest trends and products’!

  7. So true – good to remember that we don’t have to like what “everyone else” likes, and that it is GOOD to be different sometimes.

  8. I wrote about this very topic about a month ago. I’m sick and tired of being anyone but me. God made me, I like me, and so does my husband. I AM sorry to hear you don’t like Pumpkin Spice Lattes, however. That’s just sad (you know how much of a pumpkin freak I am!)…but it doesn’t make it a bad thing. I’m glad YOU know what YOU like! :)

    My post: http://www.carriesbusynothings.com/2012/09/free-to-be-me.html

  9. Wow! I needed to read that. I had a bad day last week after feeling bad when a good friend basically told me that my house decorating sucked, I had no style sense and that I should make sure that I used air fresheners when people came over. I am not usually sensitive, but I work hard on my dress, my house is my style and I could appreciate the air freshening advice, I already knew that….
    I realized though, that my style is not her style, and her style is for sure not my style. My reaction was to think of criticizing her cluttered style compared to my minimal approach, but I know that is not right either. I love my friend, but sometimes I need to find a way to subtly remind her that we are very different people, and that doesn’t make me uneducated.

    • Jessica Fisher says:

      God’s favor on that journey with your friend. It’s okay to be different and to like different things. Just a hard row to hoe sometimes.

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