Yes, Yes, You Can.

You can ditch the soda habit. You can quit watching TV. You can kick the bad eating habits that have plagued you for years. You can choose to change.

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Don’t tell me you love food. I love food. And for thirty days I gave up (almost) all I hold dear. I lived to tell the tale.

We say it all the time, “I could never ____________.”

Fill in the blank: homeschool, stay home with my kids, start running, get fit, quit my job, get a job, go to school, whatever else that seems ominous to you.

These past couple years have been full of things that very much fall into the “I’ll-never-do-that” category:

Each and every circumstance has been filled with fear and trepidation. In the final hours, I’ve asked myself, “WHY am I doing this?” And afterward, I was always glad that I did. “That wasn’t so bad.”

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Yes, yes, you can!

I think we get stuck in our ways and wonder if we can really change the path we’re on. But, you can. Just because you’re “grown up” doesn’t mean you need to do what you’ve always been doing. This is 2013, after all. So much is possible!

Consider these scenarios:

:: My neighbor, a mom of four, ranging in age from 10 to 18, is going to college now. I’m so excited for her. She said it’s something she’s always wanted to do and now’s a good time in the seasons of her family life to do it.

:: Toni made some radical changes to her diet and her activity levels, utterly transforming her body and her health. (I’m secretly jealous and using this post to pep-talk myself into a similar kind of change.)

:: My brother-in-law is finishing his second year of law school. At 36, this is kind of a big deal. He, with my sister‘s support, changed his career’s trajectory, “retired” from teaching, moved his family (my sister and two nieces) to the other coast to take on this big family adventure, and is living the life of a law school student as clearly “grown adults.”

:: Kara and her husband are fighting hard to get out of debt. That is no easy battle.

:: Friends of mine, parents of four, are embarking on “domestic foster to adopt” and are setting things up to bring an older girl or possibly a sibling pair into their family.

:: Rachel and Doug took a year off employment and moved to Italy for a short time with their two young kids.

:: Stephanie and Ryan are traveling the world with four small children, going all the way to Antarctica and beyond.

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Choose to change.

Many of you are also trying new and different things:

  • homeschooling for the first time
  • going back into the work force
  • leaving the work force to be more present at home
  • adopting a child
  • giving up an addiction
  • working to rid your home of clutter
  • moving to a new place
  • changing your diet
  • trying to get fit
  • you name it

It’s easy to feel intimidated by the challenges you face. Life is hard enough sometimes just to survive. And yet we can see areas where we can change or improve our lives.

Those can be daunting.

Provided that it’s not immoral or illegal, I say go for it.

Pray for wisdom. Seek God’s direction. Then take the first step towards your new goal.

For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. — Philippians 4:13

It may not be easy. It may not happen right away. You may change your mind after a time, or God may direct your circumstances elsewhere. That’s all possible.

But, don’t let it be for lack of trying.

What new change do YOU want to bring about?

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Comments

  1. I really needed this today.. I have been dealing with a “sugar addiction” that waxes and wanes but never really goes away and just today I was thinking maybe I just can’t. Thank you for the reminder that I can quit..

  2. Mary Bet says:

    I just ran my first 5k yesterday. I wasn’t nearly prepared, but I lost much of my momentum to train after my beloved father passed away in December. However, I was going to do it, even if I had to walk and come in last — the 5K was for MS and I signed up to honor a dear friend, Joe Emrick, who passed away after years of struggle and pain. I did it — not well, but I did it. Then I heard the most inspiring story about my Dad and when he began to run. It makes me want to run more! Eating right is also what I want to do for me and for my kids. This requires planning and that’s a challenge for me. And I always want a more stream-lined, clean home! Thanks for the pep talk! “I can do all things!”

    • Jessica Fisher says:

      What a great story! I’m not a runner, but my brothers and dad are. How nice to follow in your dad’s footsteps.

  3. Starting my doctorate with four kiddos (16,14,11 and. 6) woo hoo!

  4. Powerful words of encouragement! Thanks for sharing your heart and some wonderful motivation. My personal health & exercise habits have sunk to less than desirable. I needed a little reminder to “just do it”! :)

  5. Katherine says:

    I just had to comment as I have reread this several times and your words have just helped me so much. I was crying like a baby (happy tears!) since this week had me doubting I could keep on and go for our dreams. Four of the kids were sick with the flu for two weeks with every symptom imaginable and my husband had to work like crazy and the week just broke me down. We have family and friends who make comments about homeschool, as well as other different goals and dreams we have been slowly but surely plugging away at, I am ashamed to admit that sometimes the comments make me doubt we can do all these wonderful things and we are a little crazy for lack of a better description, like they say. My husband doesn’t care at all and most the time I am fine with it but this was one of those weeks that brought me to my knees more often than ever praying for strength and a sign that I could do all these things others think we are crazy to undertake. Thank you so much for helping me get out of this rut and get back to doing. Have an awesome week all of you and way to go on all the amazing things you are all doing, I have not met you all but I am very proud of you all!

    • Jessica Fisher says:

      What a great story. Thank you for sharing that with me. You can’t do everything, but God will give you the capacity for the things He wants for you.

  6. Thanks so much, Jessica.

    When you posted this, I was giving panel talks at our homeschool conference, a first for me! Now I’ve been asked to speak for a multi-church lady’s group, and my husband thinks I can give that kind of a talk. And a few other amazing opportunities are staring me in the face as well.

    My big issue right now is deciding what to say ‘no’ to. After all, I’m not healthy and I have 4 homeschooled kids. Gotta be realistic here!

    Congratulations on your big accomplishments! You’re inspiring.

    • Jessica Fisher says:

      Yay! Sounds like you were a hit. And yes, saying NO is going to be just as important as saying YES. Blessings as you figure that out.

  7. After fourteen years of difficulty with a simple walk, I took the plunge and started working toward a 5k. I can currently run (more like a very very very slow jog) 5 minutes at a time…four minutes more than I could when I started at the beginning of March. I can also walk/run a total of 35 minutes without dying…yeah, I know, very unlikely that walk/running is going to kill a 28 year old…and I’m actually considering doing the Whole30…or at least the Whole9 I’ve seen. I have given up soda/coffee since New Year’s with NO cheating! So many things I didn’t think I could do…I’ve been doing.

    However, I can’t do it by myself…I’ve needed God every step of the way!

  8. Thank you for this post, it has encouraged me so much! I just finished a full week of no white sugar (along with other healthy habits), which I’ve never done before, wow! Between your recent posts and reading about Toni and her Fit For Good changes (thanks for introducing me to her blog!), I have hope I can reduce my fatigue, improve my health, balance my “mom life”and actually enjoy life. Thank you, and best wishes on completing your new book. :)

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