My Mother’s Day Plans

I’m making plans for my mother’s day.

cool drink hot day

I’ve got pretty simple hopes for the upcoming Mother’s Day weekend. I want to sleep in, eat all my favorite foods, and lose myself in a good book. A bubble bath wouldn’t be too bad, either.

And maybe a slice of chocolate cheesecake.

Watching a chick flick would take it over the top, especially if my people watched it with me which they did a few weeks ago when I was sick and watched Keira Knightley’s Pride and Prejudice.

I’m hoping that those things are part of the mix. I’m looking forward to a simple day, and so I’m making plans:

1. To focus on loving my family.

Last time I checked, my kids and husband are the ones who made me a mom. I am so grateful for their presence in my life.

I don’t want to get so caught up in what I think I deserve that I forget why I’m here. I’m not talking about sacrificing myself or reaching burnout, but simply keeping things in perspective. If I dwell on things too much, I can ruin the reality of the experience.

The first year I was a mom — I was pregnant, actually, with the baby due a month later — I behaved horribly, putting all kinds of demands on my husband, hinting and not so much hinting about what I wanted and expected from him. I was very selfish in those early years, so fearful that I would be forgotten or that folks wouldn’t make as much out of me as I thought they should.

I hope that I’ve grown up a little.

fishmama and girls

2. To give myself a break.

This year as April turned into May, I found that I was really, really excited for this month to begin. As I thought about the FishMama Trifecta, I realized that my enthusiasm was that those three days are the days when I’m not really required to do much.

I “get to be lazy” on my birthday, my anniversary, and Mother’s Day. I get to indulge in those things (sleeping in, favorite foods, book reading bubble baths, cheesecake) that I might not allow myself otherwise because there are other more practical things to be done.

I’m going to try to get my work out of the way early in the week (chores, writing, lesson planning) so that I really can have a rest on Sunday and enjoy whatever the kids end up planning.

3. To be realistic.

There is no such thing as a perfect day. Messes will be made. Kids will squabble. I will lose my patience. Those are all par for the course.

If I expect a “perfect day”, I will be disappointed. And really, Mother’s Day was invented by a greeting card company. Oh, sure, Abe Lincoln gets some credit, but really, shouldn’t we tell our moms we appreciate them a little more often than once a year? (Hi Mom!)

4. To eat well.

I’m not afraid to take the bull by the horns when it comes to good eats. I’ve got my meal planned. It’s one that we all love: Steak, Potatoes, Salad, Baguette, and Cheese. Oh, and some chocolate cheesecake.

I’m not hesitant to shop for the stuff, though I am happy to let someone else do the cooking.

5. To give thanks.

It doesn’t take but a glimpse at pictures of my eldest when he was little to get a jolting reality check. The time is a-passing! A dozen or so years ago, I didn’t know if we could have more kids. Now we have a veritable half dozen. I am indeed thankful that God has blessed me so richly. I hope I never take it for granted.

I think simple is always better. Simple food, simple plans, simple expectations. You can’t go wrong that way.

Have you got big plans for Mother’s Day?

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  1. Kathy in Illinois says:

    My husband and my son always to go The Amana Colonies in Amana, Iowa the Saturday before Mother’s Day and enjoy the atmosphere, the shops and the delicious food. On Sunday – Mother’s Day- we keep it simple at home with grilled hamburgers- my favorite!! My daughter lives in Colorado so she always calls me on Sunday. When she was home she went with us. Simple is best, Jessica! I hope you have a simple and delightful Mother’s Day with your 6 darling blessings and your wonderful husband.
    God bless, Kathy in Illinois

  2. Good for you! I had that realization about the privilege of getting to be a mom last year when DH was in France on the holiday ;) This year all I want is to be able to use the bathroom without an audience and heap some love on my MIL who needs support as she cares for her husband that is suffering from ALS>

  3. Jenise says:

    My husband hates the beach. On Mother’s Day, we usually have a beach day as his annual visit because I love the beach! Since he actually went to Coronado Beach on Spring Break and a crawling baby just turns into a sand monster at the beach, we decided that we would just do a picnic instead at our favorite spot. Bread, cheese, wine and chocolate. Yum! Much better suited to a day with an infant anyways than trying to get all stressed out with tiny ones in an overcrowded restaurant, and still a relaxed, no cook day for me.

  4. Katherine says:

    My husband has to work on Mother’s Day in the late afternoon since this is one of his busiest nights of
    the year. He works at a restaurant. We are going to go to church and also stop by his mom’s house and bring her some presents. My kids will give me a bunch of handmade crafts and my husband will spoil me Monday morning. I am thinking cheesecake is a great idea and a trip to the library for some good books tomorrow so I am ready if the moment to read appears. I hope you all have special weekends with your family and get to sneak in some rest and dessert.

  5. Hah! I never really thought of the day.

    Although my people do know I need a new blender. Last time I made smoothies, the liquid came spurting out the bottom, and I had to hold my hand over it to keep from being sprayed!

    We’re always low key about mother’s day, and that’s fine with me. I don’t even mind if my husband forgets about it, which he does regularly. But when people ask me what I got for mother’s day, I like being able to mention something. This year it’s a dishwasher and a water purification system that just happen to come this week; I’m sure hubby has no idea it’s mother’s day. LOL

    Really, who needs a blender with gifts like that?

  6. When I clicked on the URS address from blogger, it 404′d me. Just thought I’d let you know. Also, can you link to the hamburger bun recipe. Wasn’t there a video at one time on twisting them into fun shapes? Memory lapse today..

  7. Thanks for being honest about your first mother’s days! Last year (my first mother’s day), I believe I was up at 6 with a very awake and fussy 4-month old and then my hubby woke up sick and couldn’t go to church. I was so bummed because I didn’t sleep in, had to do the church process alone, had to cook lunch AND wash the dishes, and it was my FIRST mother’s day! Then I thought–”Hey, reality check. If I didn’t have my little early riser I wouldn’t even be a mom to enjoy this holiday.” So I decided it was just a day to celebrate what being a mom *actually* is! Hoping for better luck this year though :) Going to check out the chocolate cheesecake recipe now–sounds fabulous!

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