Got kids? Are you including them in the workings of the household and teaching them important life skills?
When I was a kid, chores were a part of life. We didn’t always do them. But, they were there, and our parents often asked us to do stuff around the house or yard. Washing dishes, pulling weeds, chopping fire wood, milking cows, that sort of thing.
Okay I lied on a few counts there, but you get the drift.
Implied in my lie is the truth that things have changed for most households in the last generation or two. Chopping fire wood and milking cows was very real for my dad, a man born and bred on a Minnesota farm. It’s a foreign concept for me.
Likewise, there are some things my kids just don’t have to do that their father or I once did when we were kids. Our life circumstances are different than our parents.
For instance, we rent a house in Southern California. It’s nice and big and the owners live in Australia. Since they don’t want to worry about tenants letting things go, a gardening service is included in our lease. While we have a lawnmower, it sits dormant in the garage. My kids haven’t pulled weeds in five years since the gardener takes care of that.
I’d be happy to teach them about weeds and yard work, but it’s really not necessary right now. (And honestly, I’ve got enough fires to fight!)
I need help. And you do, too.
You know that I’m kinda of a freak of nature. I somehow end up with lots of things on my plate. I couldn’t homeschool and write cookbooks and publish blogs if my kids didn’t help out around the house.
Well, I suppose I could…. but I’d be worn pretty thin… or the house would be declared a disaster zone. I have to get help with the housework or I think I would die.
Gimme a high five.
For years when we had only littles, we focused on the high five concept as a way to add routine and cleanliness to our home. If you don’t have them yet, download the Morning High Five and Afternoon High Five printables. (There are customizable forms for Morning and Evening High Five available in Organizing Life as MOM.)
The concept of five tasks in the morning, five in the afternoon, and five before bed, is easy for kids to grasp, gives them a sense of accomplishment, and adds routine and stability to the day. But what do you choose as those special five (or more)? Little kids get simpler things. Big kids get to do more because they can. Don’t be afraid to ask a little farther than they can do well. They will rise to the challenge.
Kids can keep house (mostly).
So, my kids (ages 5 to 17) help, particularly since they are the ones that make a lot of the messes.
Here’s how it is working currently:
Two kids share each of three bedrooms. They are responsible to change the sheets and vacuum on a weekly basis as well as keep things mostly ship shape. I don’t freak out (too much) that there’s junk on the floors, but at least once a week, they need to get it put back together.
This is the goal – for at least fifteen minutes once a week. (Let’s be real.)
Over the last year I decided that my kids could do their own laundry. It has made life so much easier to wash them in separate loads instead of trying to corral everyone for a big laundry folding party. I wash sheets, towels, and parent clothing — though FishPapa has taken to washing his own as well.
I added a few more tweaks to the system, like writing directions and a written schedule ON THE WASHING MACHINE with a sharpie and buying laundry soap sheets. Love those! Laundry is not the dreaded monster it once was.
If a child takes out a project or box of Lego or dress-up, he or she is responsible to put it away. Most big boxes of toys (Playmobil, dolls, Lego, etc) are stored in big tubs in the garage. They get pulled in for play and then returned when we’re done with them.
Now that they are venturing into cooking independently, they are responsible for cleaning up after themselves. (We are still working on this part.)
There are four FULL bathrooms in our home: the master bath, one in the girls’ room, one between the boys’ rooms, and one downstairs. This means there are four toilets and showers and SIX sinks. Heavens! We’ve divided them to conquer them. I take care of the master bath; the girls clean their bathroom, one pair of boys does the upstairs bath; the other pair of boys is in charge of the downstairs bath.
Every once in awhile, I give each bath a deeper clean than the kids do, but they do a pretty good job. It helps that one boy in each pair is pretty fastidious about cleaning.
Grab these FREE Bathroom Bingo and Checklist printables to help your kids help you keep the bathrooms clean.
We’ve divided the house into zones: entryway, living room, family room, hallway, and school room. When a parent says, “Time to pick up the zones,” the kids call dibs and get to work. (The girls double up.) Vacuuming happens at least once a week these days, but my ideal is daily. We haven’t reached my ideal in about a year. But, as soon as I typed that sentence, I went and asked the kids, who were doing zones, do vacuum while they’re at it. Ha!
In the early days, I really had to spell out what needed to be done in the zones. It makes me laugh that the living room cleaning list mentions “Take dirty clothes to the laundry room.” Yes, my children have been known to undress in the living room! Oy!
Each child has a kitchen job that he’s responsible for three times a day: loading the dishwasher, emptying the dishwasher, clearing and wiping the tables, clearing and wiping the counters, and sweeping/mopping the floor. The girls double up again. FishPapa and I help out, but the kids know how to do it themselves.
This probably looks like a ton of work, but honestly it’s not. If the neighbor kids every wonder why my kids take so long to clean, it’s because they dawdle, not because they have too much work. We are constantly looking for ways to streamline our home and make it easier for them to play, study, and work. Zone Defense is part of that.
I want my kids to know how to do. Regular chores are part of that.