Last week I talked about determining your destination as a mom. What kind of mom do you want to be? Where do you want to go in your role as MOM? When you’re old and gray, having walked a winding path, where will you find yourself? Determining your destination now will help you get to the right place, Lord willing.
If you haven’t had a chance to think through this recently, I encourage you to go back here.
Let’s remember that this motherhood gig is a journey, and a marathon one at that. It can be easy to be overwhelmed by the immensity of the task at hand. For me:
I want to be a joyful mom who is encouraging to my children, content with where God has put me, and reliable to take care of the tasks that are mine.
OK, let me just flip a switch and I can be all those things, right? Not hardly. Motherhood is going to encompass my lifetime. So, while I have the destination in mind, my next step is to create a vision or plan for this leg of the journey.
Let’s think about this year. Choose one area of your mothering to work on. No, you don’t need to ignore the others. But, focus on one area to pray about, to focus on, to grow in.
Currently, I feel really burdened by the fact that I am dropping the ball with my children. So this year I”m going to focus on being reliable with cheerfulness.
I want my children to look back at our lives together and know that their mom could be counted on to do what she said.
She read the story as she promised. She drove us to the park when she said she would. She delivered the goods and kept to her word. And she did it with a good attitude. She didn’t sigh at the diapers, the messes, the childishness, or the middle of the night waking. She knew what tasks (and joys) were hers and she put her hand to them.
Talk about a vision! Just writing that out makes me quake in my boots. And it will probably take 12 years rather than 12 months to achieve these attitudes and habits. But, I want to grow!
Once you have your vision, think about some specific goals to help you achieve that vision. For this leg of the journey, I’m going to spend some time thinking through the following:
Time management – if I’m a better steward of my minutes, the urgent won’t supercede the important. Thus, there will be more space for stories, trips to the park, and other fun things that I promise my kids.
Watch my words – I want to be more deliberate (and realistic) with the promises I make. I want to mean what I say and say what I mean. I don’t want to be full of empty promises. Failed expectations can disappoint a child more than if the notion was never mentioned.
Prioritize – I want to be able to tell the difference between the urgent and the important. My time is limited, so I need to get the biggest bang from my buck, so to speak. What things are really important? What should I spend my time on?
These are just three ways that I can grow in being more reliable to my children. I’ll be exploring these in more depth next week as we look at strategies to help us achieve our goals.
So what about you? What area of your Motherhood Mission would you like to grow in? And how can you break it down into smaller parts? Let’s talk about it in the comments.