A Family Jewelry Tradition

That’s me and my grandfather. He passed away when I was five, but I know him because of my mom’s stories. And the jewelry he gave her.

He always made it a point to buy my mom and her sisters a special piece of jewelry from time to time.

Times were tough in those days, but he must have made some sacrifices in order to buy those keepsakes for his girls.

Mom has given one of those pieces to me and each of my sisters.

And when we were growing up, she made a point, despite how tight money was, to buy us keepsake pieces of jewelry for Christmas, birthdays, and in particular, Valentine’s Day. They weren’t elaborate pieces of jewelry, usually a gold charm to wear on a chain.

They are wonderful tokens of Mom’s love for us and her desire to make us feel cherished and special.

To be 8 years old and have a special gold necklace made me feel so grown up!

Meet {Jules}

In light of that family history, I’m very happy to tell you about {Jules}, a mom owned jewelry company.

Julie Miller is a mompreneur, making her home on the Central Coast of California, one of my very favorite places in the world. She was “inspired to start {Jules} after keeping several mementos from her’s son’s childhood prompted the idea to create jewelry that embodies memories the way keepsakes do.”

{Jules} produces beautiful, handmade jewelry that is perfect for gift giving, wedding celebrations,  or anytime you want to make a lady, young or old, feel special.

Each piece is presented in dainty wrapping that is sure to make any girl sigh.

And each necklace is embellished with a signature, heart shape at the clasp. Use it to extend the length of your necklace or let it dangle at the back of your neck.

Julie suggested that I choose a piece to review, so I danced around her shop, trying desperately to choose just one thing. Everything is beautiful! I chose this Open Heart Birthstone Charm. The two birthstones are mine and FishPapa’s.

(Now, everybody say, “ahhhhh…”)

Note to all those husbands lurking out there, it’s a very affordable piece. And you put the two of you’s birthstones on there, you’ll be a rockstar…. you know what I’m talking about.

Anyway, Julie also has a knack for making mothers of large families NOT look like Mr. T when they wear a “mother’s necklace.” Look at this pretty Family Birthstone Heart Charm that she threw in the box when my back was turned.

She also offers a wide variety of little girl jewelry so that you can start the family tradition that my mother and grandfather have carried through the years. This year I get the privilege to pass on these itty-bitty pearl bracelets that Julie made for the FishChicks. How fun is that?!

This week, five LifeasMOM readers will win a {Jules} creation. One of each of the following pieces is up for grabs:

Leave a comment on this post, telling us which piece of Jules jewelry you love the most.

Winners will be chosen at random and notified via email. Please respond within 48 hours to claim your prize. There are five pieces and five winners. One piece goes to each winner. I cannot guarantee which of the five pieces you will be sent. Comments left prior to 8 pm PST on Sunday, February 13th are eligible.

This giveaway is now closed. Congrats to the winners:

If you don’t want to wait to win, Julie is offering a free sterling silver Heart Charm and a 10% discount to both {Jules} and her sister site, Little Girls Pearls. Just use the voucher code LIFEASMOM when you order.

Disclosure: {Jules} is an advertising sponsor of the Loving Life series.

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  1. susanlanai says:

    I love the My Little Sweetheart Necklace.

  2. Denise G. says:

    I love the sweet pearl bracelet. I had my second child, a little girl, 10 days ago and this would look just precious on her!

  3. What lovely works of art these are – WOW!

    I think my very favorite is the family birthstone necklace – I love how the size is adjusted to how many stones you have on it, rather than those folks who just squeeeeeeeze a bunch of stones on the same piece each time.

    Thanks for the opportunity, ladies!

  4. I love all the little girl jewelry but alas only have boys! – So for myself I would pick any of the braclets – loved them all but the garnet one is my fav

  5. I “pity da fool” who doesn’t like her beautiful work. :p What a creative charm for a mom of a large family. I also adore the heart clasp detail.

  6. I would LOVE to win one of these! What beautiful jewelry!

  7. I am so in love with the My Little Sweetheart personalized piece! But honestly, I’d love to win any of them. They are all beautiful!!

  8. TwoDiffSocks says:

    i LOVE Sweet Pearl Bracelet! What a sweet wonderful idea on all the jewelry. We moms know our sparklies 🙂

  9. Sheila Bailey says:

    I like the family birthstone necklace.

  10. I like the delightful name bracelets–perfect for little girls.

  11. The family birthstone heart charm necklace! I have so many children, including little daughters that I’d love to “carry them with me.”

  12. Oh how I love the ‘My Little Sweetheart Personalized Hand-Stamped Necklace with a genuine birthstone charm’, how wonderful it would be to have one of those around my neck to honor my little guy….and then I’d have to go back and order a second for my daughter’s honor as well 🙂 We’d both win 🙂

  13. I love the Family birthstone heart charm necklace!

  14. Lea Stormhammer says:

    Boy, that was a tough decision!

    The My Little Sweetheart Necklace is the winner for me.

    Though, I do love the matching mother and daughter valentine’s set too…

    They’re all lovely!
    Thanks for hosting this give away!

  15. I like the Family Birthstone Heart Charm Necklace.

  16. All the pieces are really nice but I fell in love with the family birthstone heart necklace. Such a cute way to represent all the family birthstones!

  17. Thank you for such a great opportunity to win a piece of beautiful jewelry! My favorite is the My Little Sweetheart Stamped Necklace. A lovely addition to any daughter’s jewelry box!
    Thanks again!

  18. I love the Mom & Daughter Valentine Set. How special to have matching jewelry!

  19. Stephenie says:

    Love it all! I have three daughters and can’t wait to show my husband this jewelry so we can pick something out for them. I really lo
    ve the Open Heart Charm necklace, though. I would do the same as you and put my husband’s birthstone.

  20. Sally Mcquaid says:

    I love the “My Little Sweetheart Personalized Hand-Stamped Necklace with a genuine birthstone charm.” Its beautiful and a great way to have a little of me and my hubby together

  21. I love the mom and daughter necklace set – how precious!

  22. The Family birthstone necklace is stunning (so are all the others!)

  23. Heather Abbott says:

    Tough to choose just one – I really like the itty bitty handprint and footprint charm necklaces and the open heart charm necklace. Beautiful!

  24. Jennifer M says:

    I love the matching Mom and Daughter Valentine necklace set. That would be perfect for me and my 5 yr old!

  25. They are all great but my favorite is the family birthstone necklace.

  26. very cute, i like the my little sweetheart necklace.

  27. Her family birthstone heart charm necklace is beautiful!

  28. Love love the hearts…..
    also love the one that you picked out.
    I hope I win this….

  29. I like the Sweet Pearl Bracelet.

  30. What a great giveaway! I love the Adorable Name Bracelet. I would love to get one of these for my daughter. She is almost 2 and loves jewelry.

  31. Those pieces are so sweet – each of them are a lovely prize! I love the “My Family Circle” and the “My Mothers Garden” – I haven’t seen pieces like those before!

  32. Laura Quirk says:

    The family birthstone heart charm . . .

  33. the sea glass jewelry is beautiful!

  34. Those are very pretty. I like the family birthstone necklace

  35. Those are all so beautiful. I really like the “my little sweetheart” necklace.

  36. Very pretty jewelry! My daughter and I like to match, so I’d pick the matching mother/daughter necklace. Although the pearl bracelet is beautiful too! Thanks!

  37. Kristen deweese says:

    I love the hand stamped necklace!!

  38. Oh, the little girls name bracelets are very sweet. 🙂

  39. Katie Bauer says:

    I love the My Little SweetHeart necklace. I just had my first child last May and I will definately be ordering something from Jules site for her first birthday!! Thanks for the new tradition FishMama 🙂

  40. I love the layered look of that triple stamped necklace! So pretty!

  41. Heather E. says:

    I would choose: My Little Sweetheart Personalized Hand-Stamped Necklace with a genuine birthstone charm. Thanks!!

  42. I like the Family birthstone heart charm necklace.

  43. Oh my! How could you ever pick just ONE?? Hmm…

    oooh..oooh..oooh The Best Nice is so cuuute! I guess that would have to be my first favorite.

  44. I love the open heart birthstone charm it is so simple yet a beautiful way to display your family.

  45. The family birthstone would be great because I have 4 children and it is not overwhelming! I also love the mother daughter set. Thank you!

  46. My grandmother used to give me jewelry as a little girl – I actually still have several of the pieces! I would choose the Matching Mom and Daughter valentine’s necklace – although I have 2 little girls so I’d either give both necklaces to them or get a 3rd one so we could all have one!

  47. I love the mother daughter Valentine combo, and also the bracelets for little girls. My daughter is the only girl in the family and I like to make her feel special.

  48. Joslyn DeBoode says:

    i liked the #1165 Signature Heart Dangle Necklace

  49. oh, the mother daughter necklace set is perfect. my daughter loves to put on jewelry when she sees me putting some on.

  50. Bonnie Stone says:

    I love, love, love the Family Birthstone Heart Charm Necklace. I have always wanted a piece of jewelry to incorporate my husband, my children, and my birthstones…especially since they don’t naturally look “good” together (odd color combo). I’m sure this piece of jewelry would make them sing!

  51. The family birthstone heart charm necklace is beautiful but I loved them all! She is very talented! (and she has a great name!)

  52. I really like the family birthstone heart charm–would love to have my dh, dd, ds, and my own stones together.

  53. Gosh, how to choose! While I love the idea of that delicate family necklace, my family isn’t complete and I’d hate to leave anyone out in the future lol! I have a special spot for the mother daughter necklace. My own daughter is 16 years old (gasp!). She joined our family when she was 8 1/2 after her own precious mom died. There were definitely a few rough years, but I’d have it no other way. and as my only daughter so far, she has a special place in my heart! This necklace would help remind her that even if I had a dozen daughters, she’d still have that nook!

  54. I can’t decide…I love the Sweet Heart Triple Stamped Necklace
    and the birds nest mom charm necklace.

  55. A whole new world opened up to me that I wasn’t quite sure I was even ready for this past Spring when I had my little girl..after 2 boys. What a beautiful idea! I really, really, really like her simple yet pretty pieces. I like the Family birthstone Heart charm necklace the best I think!

    PS. I love the Loving Life series idea and look forward to the rest of the week!

  56. Staci Rae says:

    I love the mother/daughter valentine necklace set!!!

  57. I love the jewelry. silver jewelry is great and goes with nearly everything (and since I rarely rotate jewlry …find a favorite and go with it…that is important). We love the matching mother daughter valentine set. My kiddo loves to match 🙂

  58. I love the family birthstone heart charm necklace, it is so beautiful. Would love to win it!

  59. MichelleH says:

    I love the Double Heart Stamped Necklace.

  60. #1768 Adorable Name Bracelet

  61. I’d love the family birthstone heart necklace!! Just beautiful!

  62. I like the open heart charm necklace because I have 8 children plus 1 in heaven and the other necklace, as beautiful as it is, would not hold my large family.

  63. I love your blog! Very Nice! I would say my favorite piece is the 3 song birds…I love birds…I have an etsy shop called 123 little birds after my 3 children and that is a perfect necklace for me!

  64. christine says:

    So beautiful! I am in love with the Family Birthstone necklace. My eldest is starting college in the fall,my youngest going to Kindergarten. I am feeling the need to hold them all close to my heart!!

  65. I liked the first pearl necklace in the first communion/confirmation section, because my daughter is to be confirmed this year.

  66. Sharon B. says:

    I love the family birthstone heart charm necklace! I’ve wanted a piece of “mother’s” jewelry for a long time and that looks great!

  67. This jewelry is so sweet! I love the Itty Bitty Heart Necklace and the Sister’s & Best Friend Necklace. It has given me a terrific idea, along with your post, to get my girls jewelry for Valentine’s day…no more stuffed bears :).

  68. I like the family birthstone necklace.

  69. I like the Matching Mom & Daughter Valentine necklace set

  70. The family heart birthstone necklace I would like !!!

  71. I love the heart birthstone necklace!

  72. Jennifer Ott says:

    I do love the mother’s heart necklace, but I also like the Family Tree and the Family Circle necklaces. Thanks!

  73. I like them all but maybe the family birthstone or the matching mother/daughter.

  74. I would love the signature heart necklace! I love her jewelry!

  75. I absolutely love the family birthstone heart necklace, it is a classic piece that will work with whatever outfit you have on whether I am home with the kids or out and about!

  76. Oh I love the Sea Glass Necklaces!

  77. Love the sweet pearl bracelet!

  78. I love the Itty Bitty Footprint Charm Necklace. It’s adorable!

  79. I loved my mother’s jewelry, but my husband thought it looked like “dog tags”. I would love something slightly more feminine!

  80. I love the Family Brthstone Heart Charm necklace.

  81. Stephanie says:

    I love the family birthstone necklace! I have two boys (3 and 8). I would love to wear this necklace and tell EVERYONE about Jules!

  82. I’m due with our 3rd girl this week, and can’t decide which I like most: the Sweet Pearl Bracelet or the Family Birthstone necklace. Both so pretty!

  83. I LOVE the matching mother/daughter valentine necklace set. I have just one daughter, too. Beautiful jewelry!

  84. I like to surprise my oldest daughter with special gifts and special time just her and I. We would love the mother daughter necklaces to share our love.

  85. Rebecca W. says:

    I like the open heart birthstone charm

  86. I love the heart in the pocket in silver. I would love to give this to my son. He is my only child so the girly stuff, even though I love it, would not work for us. He could carry this heart with him anywhere and it not be overtly gooshy for the ‘guys’ to make fun of.

  87. Dannielle says:

    I love the Family birthstone heart necklace.

  88. Matching Mother Daughter set would be awesome!!

  89. Oh my! I love the mother daughter necklaces. Perfect for my box of goodies I am preparing for my daughter on that very special day when she becomes a woman. Such a special connection!!

  90. I’m soooo bummed that I can’t win! Love the jewelry. Maybe you could send a “hint” to my husband. Your comment about Mr. T totally made me laugh. 🙂

  91. i love so many things there! but i love to find ways to make my older dd feel special, since the babies have overtaken much of our time together. i love the mother and daughter puffy hearts with birthstones! so pretty!

  92. I like the Open Heart Birthstone Charm. Simple yet beautiful!

  93. I like the matching mother/daughter necklace set.

  94. Oh they are all so beautiful!! I would love the Family Birthstone Heart Charm Necklace though, because I’ve always wanted something like that, but haven’t found anything large enough to hold all my children’s birthstones (six). This would be perfect!

  95. I like the my little sweetheart charm.

  96. The itty bitty footprints necklace is what I would pick – could you please tell my husband?:)

  97. Love the family birthstone necklace!!

  98. I love the photo of you and your grandpa! : ) That really touches my heart, my daddy is thoughtful like that to my girls and I. Your pic is SO precious! Look forward to reading some stories about your grandfather.

    My favorite is the pearl bracelet.

    Bless you Jessica!

  99. Thanks Jessica for the give-away (and Jules too!) I love the Family Birthstone necklace, being very simple – yet still containing all of your families birthstones! As a side note, if I had to pick just one piece – I would have a hard time too – loved those pearls braclets too! Will plan to give those to my girls some year for their birthday!

  100. I would love for my little girl to have the sweet pearl bracelet.

  101. The sea glass jewelry is stunning!

  102. Love it!

  103. It’s a tie for me between the mother daughter valentine necklace set and the little pearl bracelet. So sweet!

  104. I like the open heart birthstone charm.

  105. elizabeth says:

    I would love the pearl bracelet ~ it’s classic!

  106. Love the family charm heart neclace! My 6th is due next month and I stopped wearing charms because it was too many on a chain. This is a nice, simple, yet pretty look.

  107. So beautiful! I love the Family Birthstone Heart Charm Necklace. Would love to get my 5 kids’ birthstones.

  108. Jaclyn F. says:

    Oh I LOVE the Mama Love necklace!

  109. Michelle P. says:

    I love the open heart birthstone necklace. I love that you can personalize it!

  110. heather c says:

    I really love the mother/daughter necklaces!

  111. These are beautiful! I think I’d love anyone of them … the mother and daughter necklaces would be really special! Or, maybe the family birthstone one … 😉

  112. Laura Bishop says:

    I love the open heart necklace. I would add the birthstones for my 3 girls… This is a website to bookmark for those special occasions 🙂

  113. Tammy Ward says:

    I love the family birthstone necklace.

  114. These are beautiful! I love the little girl pearls, all of the pieces are just lovely. Coming from someone whose first pearls were to wear with my wedding gown!

  115. Love, love LOVE the Family birthstone heart charm necklace! It’s hard to pick a favorite, I think I just spent a half an hour on her site!

  116. Elizabeth says:

    I love this tradition!!! My daugter has struggled with seperation issues I draw a heart on her hand and tell her to remember I am always with her, I would love to have the mother daughter set to give her a heart to carry with her always!!!

  117. Elizabeth Rotering says:

    I love the sweet pearl necklace. Soo pretty!

  118. Jessica Fox says:

    I would love to win the baby name bracelet. 🙂 Thanks for offering such a neat giveaway!!! 🙂

  119. I like the family birthstone necklace. That is the best rendition of a birthstone necklace I have seen! As a mom of soon-to-be-six—I don’t think there are too many options out there for that many birthstones!

  120. I’m torn between the family birthstone heart necklace and the matching mother/daughter set…they’re both so pretty!

  121. I like the family birthstone heart necklace the best.

  122. I really like the Matching Mother/Daughter Valentine necklace set.

  123. I love the family heart necklace.

  124. I have 3 girls from 13 yrs to 11 months, so I love it all. I think my favorite is the family birthstone heart necklace. Thanks

  125. The Lovely Pearl Bracelet.


  126. What beautiful jewelry!! I love them all but especially the birthstone heart necklace! Lovely!

  127. I have to tell you which ONE I like the most! Too many beautiful choices!

  128. Dawn Stribling says:

    I would love the Family birthstone heart charm necklace. We just had our third and final child and I would love something like this to show off our family!

  129. What a wonderful site!!! I’m so glad you posted it today, I’m bookmarking it for later. I LOVE the name bracelet! My mother gave me one when I was younger and I would love to give one to my daughter so excited! The pearl bracelet is soooo sweet too! Oh and I love the affordable family birthstone necklace! With 4 little ones they get expensive as I’m sure you know.

  130. I LOVE the family birthstone heart charm necklace!

  131. I would love the mother/daughter valentine piece- beautiful 🙂

  132. What pretty jewelry! I’m bookmarking the site for various celebrations coming up. Love the family birthstone necklace.

  133. The mother’s garden necklace is very pretty.

  134. Such pretty items, all of them…. but I like the Family Birthstone Heart Charm Necklace the best.

  135. I think I like the family birthstone necklace the best, but I really like all of them. 🙂

  136. love the family birthstone necklace!

  137. I think the family heart birthstones would be awesome.

  138. The family open heart necklace is lovely

  139. Pam Howard says:

    I love the open heart charm necklace – so pretty!

  140. I like the matching Mom and Daughter valentine set, my oldest child, is turning Sweet 16 on Valentine’s Day.

  141. The family birthstone heart necklace is my favorite.

  142. I like the Family Birthstone Heart Charm Necklace.

  143. Charity L. says:

    Ooo—it is neck in neck between the family birthstone hearts and the My little sweetheart! I vote both!

  144. I love the sweet pearl bracelet! And so would my daughter!

  145. I like the Sweet Pearl Bracelet…and I love the idea of giving my daughter special pieces of jewelry throughout her childhood. I have my grandmother’s engagement ring (the main diamond is replaced with a ruby…she has the main diamond in her current wedding ring) which was given to me when I turned 16 and I look forward to passing it down to my daughter someday.

  146. Oh my goodness I love it all! But if I had to pick a favorite it would be one of the birthstone necklaces.

  147. My favorite is the family birthstone heart necklace, I love the heart shape she came up with. Very unique.

  148. I love the family heart birthstone necklace!

  149. I’d like the heart in my pocket.

  150. My little sweetheart necklace:)

  151. I love the Multi-Colored Cobalt Blue Sea Glass Charm Necklace!

  152. My favorite is the family birthstone heart charm necklace.

  153. My favorite is the Mom and Daughter matching Valentine Heart necklaces.

  154. Jennifer Foutch says:

    Matching mom and daughter valentine necklaces

  155. I love the idea of having a mother’s necklace and not ‘looking like Mr. T’! A beautiful line of jewelry.

  156. I adore the sweetheart stamped necklace!

  157. I really like the Mother & Daughter Matching Valentine’s set… my daughter is 3 1/2 and loves to wear jewelry so she can dress up like me (mommy). What a sweet idea. They are beautiful.

  158. The mothers necklace

  159. I like the mother/daughter valentine set.

  160. I love the family ring birthstone charm.

  161. nancy lystrup says:

    The family birthstone heart charm is amazing!

  162. I love the stamped out heart with birthstones.

  163. i love the family birthstone heart necklace.

  164. I love the My Little Sweetheart necklace.

  165. Love her “best nest” charm necklace. So pretty!

  166. The “My First Pearl Necklace” is simple yet elegant. Thanks for the chance to win!

  167. Alina Rosenberg says:

    My little sweetheart necklace is my favorite.

  168. Christin Attebury says:

    I’d go for a personalized piece with my word for the year (harmony) on it with a pearl.

  169. I love the family birthstone heart necklace — I have been wanting something like that for a while! All of her items are beautiful!

  170. I love the My little sweetheart and the family birthstone necklaces. So sweet and personal. I’m not sure I could choose.

  171. I love the Family Mama necklace, but its all beautiful!

  172. motherfish says:

    mom heart necklace!

  173. I think the Circle Necklace with Flower and Curvy Names is SO cute! I like the heart clasp on each piece. Very sweet!

  174. Chantel Day says:

    I love the Matching Mom & Daughter Valentine necklace set. My daughter would love it.

  175. we have a little girl whose nickname is sweetheart, so I love that piece!

  176. I like the Itty Bitty Footprint Charm necklace. How cute!

  177. I love the matching mom & daughter. I hesistate to get a mom necklace because I know I’m not done yet…or at least I hope not :).

  178. deseray yeo-jones says:

    the family birthstone necklace

  179. My favorite is the family birthstone necklace.

  180. As we have one and only one I would love the “My Little Sweetheart” necklace!!

  181. Bridget K says:

    I love all the sea glass jewelry – it makes me think of being at the beach right now in early February!

  182. I like Fabulous Aventurine Earrings. Thanks for offering this giveaway.

  183. My favorite is the “Family Birthstone Heart Charm Necklace.”

  184. I love the matching mom and daughter necklace!

  185. I love the Mom Hand Stamped Charm Necklace…so cute!!

  186. My Little Sweetheart necklace is my 1st choice (mother/daughter is 2nd!).

  187. Love the heart and birthstone necklace although it’s hard to choose just one, I am a jewelry lover.

  188. christina says:

    Oh I LOVE the family heart birthstone necklace. I’m not a fan of my birthstone, but this may soften my heart to it!

  189. It is all so pretty! I love the Family Birthstone Necklace!

  190. Signature Gold-Filled Heart Dangle Necklace

  191. I love the family birthstone heart. I love wearing jewelry that proudly symbolizes my family:)

  192. I love the Sweet Pearl Bracelet.

  193. I love the family birthstone necklace. I love how delicate it looks and how cute it would be to wear to celebrate my family!

  194. I love the my little sweetheart necklace and the family birthstone necklace. Such sweet ideas!

  195. I love the betty in her garden necklace

  196. The family birthstone charm looks neat!

  197. I love the family heart birthstone necklace. I like how it is pretty, simple and not too much.

  198. Beautiful jewelry! I’d love to have the family birthstone necklace.

  199. knmkendall says:

    Thank you for this giveaway! There are so many beautiful pieces, but I love the family birthstone necklace best.

  200. I love the family birthstone necklace!

  201. beautiful stuff! i love the open heart birthstone charm

  202. Open Heart Birthstone Charm

  203. Catherine Prewett says:

    I love the Mom and Daughter necklace set! So adorable! 😀

  204. i would love to get the My Little Sweetheart Personalized Hand-Stamped Necklace with a genuine birthstone charm

  205. The sweet pearl bracelets are truly sweet! Love those 🙂

  206. Cynthia Cusson says:

    Love the family birthstone necklace!

  207. I love the my little sweet heart necklace! Adorable!

  208. Very beautiful jewelry! I would love to win the Family birthstone heart charm necklace!

  209. love the beautiful heart necklace!

  210. Annette Cumins says:

    The Mother /Daughter necklace set would be fun to win. My precious 6 year- old princess would think of it as exquisite!( Her favorite Fancy Nancy word.) I just love the idea of giving your daughter jewlery for special occasions. I think I may have to adopt this idea.

  211. The mother and daughter necklaces.

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