Choosing Better Over Good

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As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”

“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

— Luke 10: 38-42

Jesus doesn’t say that Martha was doing something bad. She was doing the housework, presumably cooking and cleaning. After all, she had a houseful! She was doing good work.

But, Mary, who should have been helping, wasn’t!

Jesus points out, however, that Mary was choosing something better, in this case, learning what God wanted for her.

It’s all too easy for me to get caught up in my to-do list and to feel driven by my circumstances. Oh there’s so much that needs to be done!

Early last week I realized that my circumstances were driving my actions and not God or my love for my husband or children. I was being bossed around by the urgent. Woe is me! It wasn’t a very comfortable place to be.

After some good prayer and journaling, followed up by a talk with a close friend, things were in better perspective. I was able to make decisions based on what I thought was most God-honoring and what loved my family most.

In many cases, it was letting good things give way to better things.

May we moms choose the better of the good things this week!

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I believe you can get great meals on the table -- and still keep that pretty smile on your face.

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  1. Can I ask when you find time for prayer and jounaling during your hectic day? The days fly by and I find myself upset that I haven’t set time aside to be with the Lord.

    • Jessica Fisher says

      @Teresa, well, truth be told, it doesn’t happen every day. But, if I go there first thing in the morning, that works best for me. But, I think anytime I find myself anxious, well, that’s when I know I need to go hide — under my apron like Susannah Wesley. 😉

  2. As wives, moms, homemakers, etc., that balance always deserves our attention. It’s so easy to be swept away and miss what He has for us. May we each cultivate a posture in our spirits that sits at His feet, no matter what task lies before us.

    Good job, FishMama!! You bring Him Glory!

  3. Don’t you just love how God puts things in your path right when you need to see them? It happened with you after your prayer and journalling and time chatting with a confidante. And it happened for me today when I read your blog.

    Thanks for telling me what I so needed to hear. This is going to be a different kind of week.

  4. Amen and amen! We all need to remember this from time to time. Thanks for the honest witness!

  5. “my circumstances were driving my actions”….wow how many times have we all been there? Not only our actions but our motives and our very disposition. Thankfully His mercies are new every morning and we get the chance to start anew. Heck, we don’t even have to wait for morning. As long as we are abiding in Him He will nudge us in the right direction. Its up to us to respond. Thanks for the reminder, Jessica. As always so humbly stated.

  6. Thanks for giving me these few moments to realize –
    I really needed to read this…

  7. Nicole D. says

    This is perfect for me today. My house is a little out-of-control after all of yesterdays family activities. Breakfast after church, football games all day, pumpkin carving, trick-or-treating, more football. I was very hard on myself yesterday for letting it get that way, but my husband and I choose well yesterday. A day of family fun!!! Cleaning will always be there, but my kids won’t always be 2 and 4! Thanks 🙂

  8. AllieZirkle says

    Our God is an awesome God. Thank goodness for his guidance and direction! I appreciate the reminder. My weekend looked a lot like your story above.

    🙂 Allie

  9. I always have loved this story in the bible of the two sisters theres also a great book ” having a mary heart in a martha world”

    thanks for sharing this story and im trying to get back to regular devotion time

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