FishChick3, Baby Fog, & New Birthday Traditions

FishChick, 3 years ago

I came out of the Baby Fog earlier this year. You know, that haze that you drift around in while your baby is nursing, waking you up at night, wearing diapers, and otherwise doing what babies do best.

The fog slowly clears as Baby gets a little more independent and sleeps longer during the night. And then you start to feel a little more “normal.”

Though normal really is a moving target sometimes, it typically took 18 months to 2 years after each baby’s arrival for me to feel like I had recovered a “new normal.” In the past fourteen years of my mothering life, however, the fog has never completely cleared. I had another baby. And I loved it.

My “baby” now sleeps through the night, wears big girl chones, and turned three last week. Since no new baby has come along, we realized, hubs and I, that it was our last week with a two year old on board. It made the birthday a little bittersweet and helped us parents savor the moment a little more.

(We were too foggy when she turned two to realize the importance of that moment.)

Our family has grown a lot in the last three years. Oh my! Look at those little people — and those crazy pink socks! It’s been an incredibly wild ride in the last three years. For those who missed it, you can read her birth story here.

Birthday Traditions

FishChick might not have been aware of the nostalgia she provoked in her parents last week, but she enjoyed her special day. As is the case for all FishKids, she got do the menu planning for the day, one of our birthday traditions.

Me: What do you want for your birthday breakfast?

Her: Toast!

Me: What do you want for your birthday lunch?

Her: Noodles!

The boys — and hubs — were a little disappointed that she didn’t request something more exciting. Give me a break, people, high maintenance birthday meals are just around the corner! Let me enjoy this easy day!

One of the boys did strategically plant the idea of Chick-fil-a for dinner which she wisely grasped hold of.

For the record, I did try to make toast a little more exciting. We cut out little people shapes with cookie cutters and she got to sprinkle the cinnamon sugar herself.

Her day was filled with lots of play, more than one Dora video, and lots of hugs and kisses.

We also had a less-than-stellar themed birthday cake. It was not my best work. But, she didn’t care! She only had eyes for the Silvermist Water Fairy doll.

Adding a new tradition

Since my mom treats me to new clothes at Christmas and on my birthday, I thought that might be a fun little tradition to add to our birthday mix this year. My four boys could care less about new clothes, but my girls? They’re all over that. So, the girls and I talked about it and decided that a new dress on your birthday sounded like a pretty cool deal.

Just the girls and I went shopping at Old Navy. And thankfully, the pink dresses were plentiful. FishChick5 worried on the way over that all the pink ones would be gone before we got there. But, no.

FishChick3 was pretty pleased with her selection and it turned out to be on sale, too! Her new pink dress counted as one of her presents, but one that she got to choose. Turns out to be a good thing, too, because I found it hard to find good quality “girl” toys. We don’t need any more plastic chokable parts to get stuck in the vacuum cleaner.

Overall it was a very fun day. She had a blast. We were reminded of the passing of time. And we all celebrated this sweet life God has blessed us with.

And now any fog I find myself in, I can claim as my own. Wait a minute….

 How do YOU celebrate the passing of the years?

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  1. Mary E.S. says:

    We too let them pick the meals on their birthday and the next weekend they get to go to Game Stop and pick a “new” to them game.I noticed your oldest has a mustache now and remember when I noticed mine had one.Boy does it make me feel old when I see that almost man sitting there doing his work and realize I won’t have them with me for very long at all.It makes each birthday just a little bittersweet.

  2. GREAT idea! I have 2 young daughters (8 months old) so it will be a couple years, but I love the idea of picking out a new dress. Thanks! And, my goodness, the birthday girl is adorable. =)

  3. Love these birthday traditions! Might have to try them out with my family 🙂

  4. Definitely in the baby fog right now!! My daughter just turned 2 yesterday and we already have a 2 1/2 month old! Maybe I’ll wait to be a little more out of the fog before having the next one… esp. cuz it starts right when I get preggo and extremely ill… we’ll see, hoping for a few more times of “baby fog” but I have to admit it sounds really nice to be on the other side of it!

    • That’s about exactly how my two children are spaced (22 months). I definitely know how you feel! I’ve felt a slight fog since early in my first pregnancy.

      It can definitely be challenging, but I try to daily remind myself of the great blessing my babies are (even when raising them is exhausting) and I try to *really* enjoy them, as I know these days will fly by and I’ll really miss these days when they’re gone.

    • Jessica Fisher says:

      Babies #2 and #3 were 19 months apart. It was hard at first, but now it’s easy. Never fear, the fog will lift!

  5. Every birthday I tell my son his “birth story” as in… “I woke up at 2:00 in the morning and knew something was happening …” all the way through until he was born at 9:29 AM. I always cry while telling it and now that he is older he says he hates to hear it, but I still do it and it is our own little tradition. It is how we always start the day!! I just want him to know how excited we were when he entered the world and joined our family.

  6. This almost makes me cry… no, wait. I AM tearing up.
    My oldest turned 10 Saturday and my youngest just started kindergarten.
    I feel like we are in the sweet spot right now… They are so much fun and I have definitely emerged from that fog you speak of… and it feels great! (But I do oogle babies, other people’s babies, a bit more now. 🙂
    Congratulations on a wonderful milestone, friend!
    That looked like a wonderful, perfect day!

    • Jessica Fisher says:

      I never “oogled” anyone’s baby — I always had one of my own — but, now it is starting to come. Weird!

  7. My cousin takes her girls out on their birthday to the mall and lets them pick out a big cookie. My kids like to go the mall and get a pretzel. It’s the simple things that turn into traditions. 🙂

  8. We have 6 children, too. 14-1yrs. Children are such blessings.

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