How to Avoid the Grass-is-Greener Syndrome During the Holidays

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During the holiday season, it’s all too easy to compare ourselves to others. Get some encouragement from Life as MOM contributor Prerna to pause and soak in the simplicity of the season.

How to Avoid the Grass-is-Greener Syndrome During the Holidays

Yes, 2014. I know! When did this year speed past us?! But here we are at the end of another fulfilling year and filled with hope and excitement for what lies ahead.

As I reflect on the year gone by, I can’t help but think about how much I tried to change things in 2013. I like to start each year by choosing a “word” to guide and inspire me and for 2013, it was ‘change’ so I am not surprised that I worked on changing habits, business goals, website designs, and other aspects of my life.

While most of the change was good and welcomed, it was not always guided by what I thought was best for my family, faith and me. It was led by “looking” at other people, assuming that they were doing it better than I was and then, trying to emulate them. Yes, not always the best way to go about things.

Luckily, things did pan out well and I did get some things right but there were a lot of bumps and I realized that the grass is not always greener on the other side of the laptop screen.

What I “see” is not always better. For me.

In this season of festivity, merry-making and more, it is easy to get affected down by “grass-is-greener” syndrome.

  •  “My house isn’t Christmassy-enough”
  • “My gifts aren’t done yet and XYZ blogger has already wrapped up hers and mailed the ones that need to be shipped!”
  • “My Christmas cookies are store bought”

How to Avoid the Grass-is-Greener Syndrome During the Holidays

But the truth is that you don’t know what they don’t do that you do. You don’t know whether or not they have help to do all that they do. You don’t know whether they’re juggling as many balls in the air as you are. You don’t know whether they truly love doing all that they do while you don’t enjoy it as much and that is okay.

As you look around online on blogs and on Pinterest, Facebook and Instagram and feel the grass-is-greener syndrome creeping in, here’s what you and I need to remember:

  • We do enough.
  • We do a lot.
  • We do what is needed to make our family happy, our faith shine and our self sing.
  • While everything online is lovely to look at, it cannot be our guide to celebrating a year and a life living it.
  • What should guide us is the smile on our child’s face when she sees those cookies, store bought or not.
  • What should inspire us is the happiness that envelops us as we exchange still-unwrapped gifts together as a family in the only room that is decorated this Christmas.
  • What should cheer us up is the meal we enjoy together on Christmas day, regardless of whether or not you made it all from scratch.

Yes, the grass {or wreath} is green enough for our home. So, breathe, pause and soak in the simplicity of the season.

Other Encouragement from Prerna:

Do you struggle with Grass-Is-Greener Syndrome?

– Prerna Malik is a mom, a wife, a writer and woman who believes in parenting with love, being postively productive, and creating a home that invites you to put your feet up and relax. Check out her free eBooks on organizing and productivity to get literally, hundreds of ideas on how to get organized on a shoestring budget, right now. Read all of Prerna’s posts at Life as MOM here.

About Jessica Fisher

I believe you can get great meals on the table -- and still keep that pretty smile on your face.

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  1. To be honest, this is one reason I avoid Facebook and Pinterest. It is the highlight reel of someone’s life, not the gritty everyday. It can make you feel less than and that is the last thing we need in our lives. We are more than enough in God’s eyes and that is all the counts. Blessings and Merry Christmas!

    • Kathy in Illinois says

      I avoid facebook and pinterest too, Tiffany. Very well said!
      God bless, Kathy in Illinois

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