Time for Mom: Indulge Yourself

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While I know a few moms who make themselves first in all things, the general MOM population that I am acquainted with tends to follow the martyr route. Mom attends to everyone else’s needs before her own.

Myself included. It’s not uncommon that while my peeps are watching a movie or playing video games, I’m off in a corner paying the bills or completing some “necessary” task. Yes, I want to be a part of the action with them, but other things need to happen. And since I’m not the best at time management, I often miss out on the fun stuff. It may not be the best choice in terms of interacting with my family, but, a girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do.

This weekend my sister was visiting with her two little girls. FishPapa very graciously cared for six of the eight kids yesterday morning while Janel and I took the babies for a Moms’ Morning Out. Through the course of the morning, she had the opportunity to lecture, I mean, encourage me not to do errands on my “free time” when I should just be relaxing and reenergizing for my other tasks.

This is a hard thing for me. I know that she is right. But, it is hard for me to do this.

Other things seem so pressing. And if I don’t do them, what will happen? When will I find the time to run the errand, pay the bill, complete the task? It feels so selfish to indulge myself when there is STUFF to do.

But, as we talked and as I talked with my sweet hubby later, to “indulge” myself is not selfish if I am not neglecting my primary responsibilities or taking advantage of my husband. In fact, if I’m rested and relaxed, chances are I will be able to return to the STUFF with a much better disposition. So, I’m going to try NOT to do errands on Saturdays. Should be an interesting challenge.

Do you ever feel this way? How do you combat the guilt of taking time to do something just for the sheer pleasure of it? Got any secrets to balancing the have-tos with the want-tos? Share it in the comments.

And on that note, enter Jessie Leigh’s giveaway for a Basket of Indulgence here. Contest ends Tuesday night.

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  1. JessieLeigh says

    Make sure you enter it, too! 🙂 You almost won the first one! Thanks for indulging me with the link, 😉

  2. Tiffany says

    I’m in the minority, I’m sure. But I have the opposite problem. I take my “me” time very seriously. And I also am VERY big on relaxing and taking it easy. So I tend to do more of that than I should, and housework and what not tends to get let go. It’s definitely a balancing act to get it all done!!!

  3. Mrs. Jo says

    I am good about taking me time just because I need it so desperately to keep my sanity! When the kids nap, I grab some reading or computer time to unwind. My daughter no longer naps, but I have her lay down or play quietly in her room for a bit. I don’t feel bad about taking this time because I am more tense and upset with the kids if I don’t get a little breather each day.

  4. mommykerrie says

    feel this way a lot, especially doing the attachment parenting thing. it’s hard to leave a breastfeeding kid, even if they ARE nearing 2 years old … haha! i’ve found the more kids i have the easier they are to leave, don’t you think? they entertain each other and love spending time with their dad. the baby only notices i’m gone after about an hour. still, i rarely leave. i have a movie gift card from 6 months ago and plan on leaving for 2 WHOLE HOURS soon to go see a movie, timing it just right, of course. not martyrs, just great mothers!

  5. mommykerrie says

    wait … i do take ME time when the kids are occupied. then i scrapbook or write and let the house go all too often. oops!

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