Treasure Each One

My mother in law passed away today after a long, hard battle with cancer. Today she is in Her Father’s arms.

I know in my very bones that she is in a perfect place. There are no tears, no sorrow, no pain where she is. And, I do rejoice with her. She has gone home.

Yet I grieve.

I grieve that my baby will never meet the grandmother whose name she bears.
I grieve that my children will not know her and see her exuberance for life.
I grieve that I wasn’t a better daughter to the woman who had all sons.
I grieve for the multitude of words and sentiments that I never shared because I thought we’d have more time.

Don’t put it off – those things you need and want to do in your relationships. As you gather with family in the coming weeks, please hold on to the idea that these moments are fleeting.

Please make the most of them.

** I’m not sure what the next few days hold for us as a family. I may be here. I may not be. I think it just depends on how I feel. Right now I am utterly exhausted. And FishPapa is as well. Your prayers for our family are appreciated.

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  1. Grandmother Ruthie was an amazing lady. I was thinking of her yesterday and that I needed to call you for her address so I could mail a holiday card. Sending you love and hugs. Very sweet post.

  2. I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. I will keep y’all in my prayers.

  3. ordinarymother says:

    I’m so sorry. I’m praying for you and your family this morning.

  4. dancebythelight says:

    So sorry! I know she’s had quite a battle from following her story here on your blog. Will be praying for you all as you both rejoice and grieve.

  5. I’ll be praying for you and for all your family. Praise God for His promise that this is just a short parting! May He provide comfort to you all as you miss someone you love.

  6. Tara aka "Mama Koala" says:

    Praying for your family during this difficult time.

  7. I am sorry for your loss.

  8. Jessica, you and all of your loved ones will be held in my heart. Praying for your peace and for the the joy of remembering her beautiful life.

  9. i’m so sorry jessica…you will be in my prayers.

  10. I’m so sorry for you loss. My life would be so much emptier without my wonderful mother in law. You are in my prayers, as is your entire family.

    If you have the heart, I would love to read some stories about her on your blog…whatever you feel up to…

  11. I offer my deepest sympathy to your family in your time of loss.

    I am glad you can rejoice in the coming days that she is home in heaven but I pray for you and your family as you feel the loss of her presence here.

    I, too, have very dear inlaws who have accepted me as a daughter in their family of all sons. They are a blessing and your post reminds me once again to be especially thankful for them.

  12. I am so sorry for your loss. I will be keeping your family in my prayers.

  13. I am so sorry for your families loss, you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Hang in there….

  14. Thank you for your prayers for our family. I know it is **awkward**to respond when someone is suffering loss. So, thank you for stepping out and commenting.

    Michelle, thanks for the suggestion. That may be something I can do. I want to honor her and bring God glory in these days and weeks.

    And, like I said, it is **awkward**. I also want to be sensitive to others in my family as this is such a public place. But, I didn’t think it right to keep on posting business as usual. This is my life right now, and probably other moms’ lives right now as well.

    If you don’t mind, I may be writing about her soon. Thanks for “listening.”

  15. Godsgirl68 says:

    Boy, you can never say too many times that life is a daily gift. I was so sad to read of your loss and want you to know that your family is in our prayers.

  16. Praying for you. Let us know if you need a place to stay.

  17. I am so sorry for your loss. My grandfather passed away on Saturday, so I am in the same situation as you are right now. I celebrate the fact that he is in heaven now. But we still miss him here on earth. I will be praying for you all.

  18. The Joys of having Boys says:

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my mom almost 2 years ago now from cancer. Those who have lost loved ones are so much more near and dear to my heart now that I have been in that place. Know that my prayers go up for you and your family during this time.

  19. Briana Almengor says:

    Praying for you, friend, and for your family…that you will rest in the one who redeems all things. Praying you will see daily and moment by moment how to best serve your family and experience your own grief at the same time.

  20. I am so sorry!

  21. I am praying for your family! It is such a comfort to know that a person is a Christian, then our sorrow is mingled with joy.

  22. Org Junkie says:

    So sorry to hear about your mother in law. I love how you used it to remind us all how precious time really is. Thank you.

  23. Thinking of you and your family.

  24. So sorry. Praying for you all.

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