Why We Keep The Friends We Keep

I met Stephanie in third grade Sunday school. We’ve known each other for almost thirty years {gasp}. We took all the same classes in junior high and high school. We were on homecoming court together. She was at my wedding and my first baby shower. Now we walk through motherhood together. Just a few months ago our kids played (and fought) well together. I’m amazed and blessed by a friendship that has stood the test of time. Though we don’t see each other often, when we do, we just pick up where we left off. We laugh together; we learn from each other. Steph’s a keeper, that’s for sure.

As I look back over the last thirty years, there are plenty of friendships that dot the landscape. Some of these women I have regular contact with today, others just once in awhile, but it’s still rich nonetheless, still others are gone with the wind. Why is that?

Why do some friendships withstand the changing seasons of life and others can’t last past this season’s hairdo?

These are the kind of questions that Sarah Zacharias Davis asks in her book, The Friends We Keep: A Woman’s Quest for the Soul of Friendship.

To read more about the book and to enter for a chance to win a copy for yourself, pop over to my review page.

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  1. mama hall says:

    so true, so true. thru every stage in life we "pick up" friends who are in that same stage, but thank God for the friends who are there thru it all (like Stephanie).

  2. A special friendship like that is a rare and valuable thing to have these days.


  3. Anonymous says:

    Thanks for the kind words Jessica!

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