Help for Moms Who are Tired & Flustered

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Are you tired and flustered, mama? Do you need a little extra focus on the home front? Consider this help for moms to get you through the day, the week, the year.

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Mondays can be so hard, can’t they?

Life can be hard, honestly. I can have a plan, but not everything can fit in the day. I have to choose wisely. Somedays I choose better than others. I can get a million great ideas and not see even one to completion.

Edith Shaeffer in The Hidden Art of Homemaking said this,

What is creativity? What is it we do when we create something? We start with an idea, or a number of ideas. Something comes into our minds. We have a flow of ideas, sometimes a tremendous flow of ideas, at times in one direction, or at other times in another direction; or perhaps even in ten directions at once.

And we have to make a choice. We cannot do everything that comes into our minds, nor can we create everything that comes into our imaginations…. Nevertheless we have been created in His image, so we can be, and are made to be, creative.

While her words are nothing earth-shattering, I find they point me in the right direction. It’s a great book, by the way.

We have to choose. We have to choose from the myriad of great ideas, curriculum, and projects we can dream up. Wake early or not. Organize the day this way or not. Feed our families this way or not. Do our grocery shopping this way or not.

Our world is so chock-full of great ideas, but in the end, we have to choose. And that can be hard when we’re tired and flustered by the many choices at our feet.

Help for Moms Who are Tired & Flustered

1. Consider good ideas!

You should never diss a possibly good idea, but neither should you immediately embrace it. What makes that idea good? Because it works for someone else and maybe sounds like it will work for you. Maybe it will!

Don’t carve it in stone at your house just yet. Test the waters first. See if that idea works well for you and your family in this season of life. If not, file it away for another day or ditch it completely.

Avoid getting bogged down by too many good ideas or trying to make it fit you when it really isn’t you!

2. Narrow down your most important things.

What’s on your plate for Monday? Focus on this. Later tonight you can look at the rest of the week. If you’re starting out the week tired and flustered, then give yourself a break. Just tackle the now. What’s on your plate right now?

Help for Moms Who are Tired & Flustered | Life as Mom

Easiest Mac and Cheese

3. Make food and clean clothing priorities.

Last week, Kimberly shared in the comments of this post how she’s really in survival mode. We’ve all been there. Sometimes things just seem overwhelming. A look at all the messes around you might send you crawling back to bed, sprinting if only you had the energy. This happens to all of us. Even that perfect lady down the street. (Psst. She’s not really perfect.)

Make food and clean clothing the priorities. If everyone has eaten and is wearing clean underwear, it’s a win.

4. Have a good attitude.

Your attitude matters more than how clean your house is or how organized you feel. If you are cheerful and have make time to kiss your husband and hug your kids, you’re golden. Don’t let the laundry pile or your overly high expectations of yourself get you down. Love your people. Life is short.

5. Make a plan for change.

Use the penicillin method for enacting change. Choose one area where you can start making progress in the direction you want to go. Laundry overwhelming you? Start troubleshooting.

Tired of too many nights of take-out? Do a good clean out of the fridge so you know what you have and get a meal plan for the day. For the day. If you’re not in the habit of meal planning, take it one day at a time. And keep at it.

This season of tired and overwhelmed will pass. It’s not okay to stay here forever, but you can ride the wave and still come out okay on the other side.

Do you have help for moms who are tired and flustered?

About Jessica Fisher

I believe you can get great meals on the table -- and still keep that pretty smile on your face.

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  1. Jennifer says:

    This is perfect timing. I’ve been sick with a stomach bug all weekend, and my people had a free for all. The house is a wreck, the food is gone, the laundry is piled high. Baby steps…

  2. I know you’ve said elsewhere to do what you can when you can. I think this is a great motto; there are times that you have the time and energy to do a lot and other times when you simply don’t. I’m learning to ask for help on the days that I’m overwhelmed or tired beyond functioning. Women at my church vacuumed my house and watched my kids so I could just get a nap at the end of my pregnancy. I can’t say how grateful I am to those ladies for just reaching out to help. It’s humbling to have to quantify such basic needs to others, but it’s giving me an opportunity to see how the Lord is providing for me and my family and helping me grow in relationships with others.

  3. You mentioned messes. Boy do we have those at my house now! But I realized the other day, one day all the kids will be in school (as we’re not planning to home school), and when that day comes, I will have the freedom to clean the whole house in one day if I so please. And when that day comes, the kids won’t have so many hours in a day to put their toys all over the house. And I might just be sad someday when I realize I no longer have to find my bed under their toys and toss them on my floor because they’re asleep in the room where “put away” is. And one day they won’t sprawl on the living room floor together with markers and “naked paper” to draw countless pictures for me. And so, having been given a dose of perspective, I am adjusting my expectations. I find myself smiling at the pile of toys. My house desperately needs to be cleaned, but I think clean enough will do for now.

  4. My saving grace came when I started cooking in bulk. This for me, means 1 have 1 week/month where I cook enough for a meal for every day of the rest of the month. It does mean we have a weekly menu that I change monthly/bi-monthly. But it also means that for the rest of the month I just look at my list and take out my already complete meal from the freeze and pop it in the oven an hour before. We now have healthy meals every night with minimum stress for me.

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