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How We Are Preparing Our Homeschooled Kids for College

As we’re starting our 16th year of homeschooling, we get ready to launch a second child into college. Here’s what we’ve done to prepare our homeschooled kids for college.

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FishBoys 16 and 20

Years ago when my eldest entered ninth grade, I wrote a post about homeschooling for high school. It was really weird to write that since I had no clue what I was doing, even though I had taught public high school once upon a time. Now, with one child a junior in college, a second graduating from high school, and another in 10th grade, I have a little bit of a clue.

My original plans to follow college requirements, get student input, get outside help, expect mistakes, and focus on relationships has proved to be a good one. My boys and I still like each other. Collectively, they’ve accomplished some great things these past few years, academically, spiritually, and emotionally. The future looks hopeful, exciting, and scary all at once.

College is here; our eldest has lived at home while attending a local state university. Our second son has started dual enrollment courses at the local community college, getting his feet wet in anticipation of joining his brother at the university next year, Lord willing.

So far, the experiment is working! I still have a ton to learn; I anticipate that by the time FishChick9 is in high school, I will have a head of white hair and hopefully much wisdom. One can only hope!

How We Are Preparing Our Homeschooled Kids for College

Here are some of the things that I’ve done as their teacher or that they’ve done as students to get better prepared for this next stage of education:

1. Provide college-prep coursework.

I was an AP and Honors student in high school and graduated from the UC system with a B-average. I was a high school teacher before the kids were born. As such, I’ve had a pretty good idea of the caliber of curriculum I wanted my kids to have.

Loosely following the course line-up described in The Well-Trained Mind, I’ve been able to provide college-prep coursework for my high schoolers in a home setting. For their part, my three elder boys have been willing participants, reading difficult texts, taking challenging classes, and exploring topics of interest on their own. It’s been fascinating to watch them branch out in nutrition and exercise, emergency services, politics, and music.

They’ve proven to be responsible, attentive young men who can handle the work.

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2. Take classes online or away from home.

Funny, once upon a time I thought it was a sign of failure on my part to delegate some of the teaching to other people. I mistakenly worried that I was “less” of a homeschooling mom if I farmed out writing, foreign language, and science. Turns out it was the best thing I could have done.

We have really benefited from online classes from Visual Latin and Brave Writer as well as Classes by Beth and Classical Learning Resource Center. I love having others pick up my slack, albeit for a fee.

Additionally, we have had great women in our community willing to take on the responsibility of lab science. It has been wonderful!

Not only d0 I have more time to devote to other subjects, but my sons get experience dealing with other personalities, meeting deadlines, and reaching the expectations of someone else besides Mom.

3. Take standardized tests regularly.

Since the first child learned to read, I’ve signed my kids up for standardized testing every few years. This gives us documentation of their progress as well as a guide for where we need to fill in the gaps. I tell the kids that it’s really a test of my teaching, not necessarily of their learning.

Additionally, regular testing has acquainted them with an institutional test setting that is quite different from taking a test at home.

4. Prepare for the SAT.

So far two FishBoys have take the SAT. Neither really wanted to, but was glad he did it. Each worked through the official SAT-prep book in the months previous.

One thing that we learned with my eldest son was to be sure to be on track for math. I messed up his math sequence in his freshman year by changing curriculum and then switching back. This put him behind a year and subsequently not well into Geometry by the time he took the SAT. You need geometry for that test!

Recently, I asked my son what we could have done differently for his high school; math was his answer. He didn’t fare as well on the math portion of the test and had to take a placement test for the university.

With FishBoy16 I hammered the math progression and that fared him well on the SAT. The next two kids down the line are a little behind in the progression, so we’ve outsourced math this year in order to get them up to speed.

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5. Get practice on public transportation.

Since we don’t have three cars, our college kids either carpool with my husband (who works at the university) at the crack of dawn or take the light rail train to their classes.

Traveling around Paris and London has helped all my kids be better able to travel via public transportation. Better to do this now when there’s no pressure than on the first day of classes when being late might be stressful.

6. Prepare the transcript as you go along.

It really helps if you start building the transcript as you finish each year. I followed the transcript-writing tips from HSLDA. It is super helpful to have this done before filling out college applications.

7. Take an application essay-writing class.

Brave Writer offers a college application essay-writing class each fall. Despite his hesitation, I signed my eldest up for the class. We are both thrilled that I did. The essay he wrote? Floored me. It took a simple, everyday topic and elevated it to something truly insightful and profound.

Having that essay already produced made the college application process super easy. All my other kids are or will be taking a similar class from now on.

Pro-tip: Take our advice and don’t wait until the day before Thanksgiving weekend when the app is due on Sunday to start. We had questions that couldn’t be answered until after the deadline.

Cambridge, UK

8. Visit prospective colleges.

Several years ago we as a family visited my alma mater, UCSB. Prior to applying for college, my eldest took a tour of the local university. Walking around the campuses really helped him make the leap in his mind about college.

And yes, even walking around colleges overseas counts as envisioning kids for the future.

9. Take dual enrollment classes at the community college.

Now that FishBoy16 is taking classes at the community college two days a week, I am seeing the benefits. Not only is it much cheaper than online classes, but it’s giving him a real taste of what college is like. Trust me when I say his trigonometry instructor is a ball-breaker and I don’t envy him the experience.

That said, it’s a great trial by fire with a little less pressure.

10. Keep track of passwords and deadlines.

A reader mentioned this tip late years ago and I didn’t know what she was talking about. Once I saw HOW MANY ACCOUNTS you need to open with different government entities to apply for the various financial aid programs, I understood what she meant. Heavens!

We’ve done okay meeting deadlines so far, but I still get a little anxious about it all.

11. Equip them to live on their own.

For financial reasons, my college kid(s) thus far, are living at home. This might not be the case for future Fish College Kids. Regardless of their leaving the nest at 18 or 22 — because YES, they will leave the nest — I want to make sure that they can manage the basics of a household on their own: laundry, food preparation, and general housecleaning.

I also consider said household contributions to be part of the rent if they are, indeed, living at home. Ha!

For this reason, the kids do their own laundry, have regular chores, and participate in meal prep. Can I tell you how awesome it is when your 20yo offers to make you a homemade ham and gruyere crepe? Like you have arrived, my friend!

(Note: my 8th and 10th graders are doing Food Chemistry this year via Food Lab, as preparation for such.)

12. Focus on relationships.

Obviously, the bulk of my list is focused on tangible and/or academic things. That’s obviously not the whole enchilada. To prepare an individual for college is to prepare him for the meeting place of ideas of all kinds. Including those that go contrary to everything you’ve ever taught him.

What about when he encounters prejudice or bullying on the college level? What about facing professors who totally don’t jibe with what he knows about morals and ethics? What about all those scary things that I’ve shielded him from these past 18 years?

I have no idea.

Well, my eldest son assured me he wasn’t as ignorant as I think. That is probably true. I also know that I was one of the ditziest, book-smart 18 year olds alive in 1990. God’s grace was big enough to shield me from some bad mistakes as well as save me unto Himself. I have to trust that God’s plan for my son is bigger and better than my own.

I can only hope and pray that our relationship is one in which he can come to me when he’s confused or needs help working through issues. I can only hope that my opinion is one he deems worth hearing.

I’ve heard the hardest parenting years are yet to come; the years between 18 and 24 are the most shaping of our lives and have huge ramifications for life. I know this from experience. In those years of my life, I traveled to France alone, got married, earned a master’s degree, started a career, and became pregnant with my first child. Those were HUGE decisions of which my parents had very little choice in the matter.

I’ve told my sons this analogy:

Your life is a bus. For a long time, we’ve been driving the bus and loading it with the things we think you need. Right now, we’re changing seats. We’ll still be right behind you. We want to be on your bus forever. We might give you advice where to turn or where to stop, but you get to drive. We hope that you won’t kick us off the bus.

And that, my friends, is part of this journey called parenting.

Clearly, I am not a seasoned expert at sending a child to college. So, I’d love to hear what more experienced moms have to say about it.

How have YOU prepared your child for college?

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  1. I have 2 in college, and it’s dizzying sometimes. Things to get used to…the school will consider him an adult and you don’t get to know about anything unless he tells you. But it’s a nice reminder for the parents to begin treating their kids like adults – just like you said, decisions are made during that age and parents are only bystanders. Our job is to raise self-sufficient adults, but it’s hard to let them be that! Another thing that felt weird…once they’re 18, they sign their own medical consent forms and doctors cannot give you their records, etc. without their ok. It’s so weird to realize that the world sees your “baby” as a grown up! I don’t have any advice about how to maneuver the changing dynamic of having a college kid living at home since both of my kids live in other cities during the school year. But I’m sure adjusting to him having a schedule of his own that doesn’t revolve around the schedule of the household will be a big adjustment as he makes arrangements to study with classmates or go to events on campus, etc. Make no mistake, it’s an adjustment for the younger kids too when their older sibling is not as available to them as he was before. Overall, I’d say the hardest part of parenting older kids is letting your kids make mistakes and deal with the consequences while basically keeping your mouth shut and letting your “adult” child work it out for themselves. I’m still figuring out how to do that! Without a doubt, there’s a giant shift in the relationship as they cross this boundary, but it can be a really good thing! I love watching my kids find their place in the world. You’ve raised him to fly, and it’s time to let him soar!

  2. My daughter was able to complete 1 yr of community college while in high school. She has been living at home to finish up her AA, which will happen in June. My daughter works 2 jobs….one as a student ambassador at the school, the other as a hostess at a restaurant. (It took her a few months to figure out that she should be saving her money) She pays for her gas, car insurance, cell phone and a nominal fee for “rent”. We have a contract.
    (LOL. She is right next to me having a mini meltdown.) I am a single mom. Because of my work schedule, we share my car. A few weeks ago, she was hit in the school parking lot.
    (Shout out to USAA). The plan for the fall is……Liberty University. Hoping and praying for the finances to come together. (Dad and I divorced and both are expected to contribute along with my daughter according to the court. He hasn’t always been reliable). It is a blessing that the first 2 years of community college will be without debt.
    And it is scary! Goodness, the challenges in regards to morals and ethics. My daughter has managed to make it through.

  3. Yes, relationships are the key, and letting them grow up and take charge is also very important. I currently have two in university and one in grade 12 (as well as two littler ones), and your list mirrors what we have done.

    Only one of my three adult kids is not living at home; the two living at home are treated as adults who have their own responsibilities as well as family responsibilities. It seems to work well and seems to be a natural outgrowth of homeschooling, where first I did everything and made all the decisions and at the end I supported their decisions.

    I’ve written about preparing kids for college/ university several times on my blog. The most popular post was http://anniekateshomeschoolreviews.com/2013/06/homeschool-mommy-marks-and-universities/

    and other ones are linked to at the end of that post.

    • Thanks for the links. I will be going over them this week now that we are really in the college thing. My husband and I are trying to figure out what responsibilities our son should have at home now. Will be looking at your posts for advice.

  4. Great list 🙂

    I have two comments

    First off, for the homeschoolers, another conversation should be about an issue they may have dealt with if they work, or are involved in a sport etc, or may have missed. What do you do when you have a lousy boss/coach/teacher? There’s not always an option about it. It’s just more likely for traditionally schooled kids to have this experience – my kids have 8 or 9 different teachers each year – one of them is bound to be incompetent, unreasonable, mean, unfair etc. This is going to happen in their lives – so how do you deal with it when leaving/quitting/transferring is not an option? It’s just something to discuss, to share your own tales, think through options.

    For all kids, something I’ve discussed with my kids since they were pretty young, and I think you probably did too but it’s not on the list LOL. Value for education is not just about how much it costs, but how much it’s WORTH. I know many folks may disagree, but for me college costs should be incurred to get a job that will be worthwhile, and that requires a college degree. Don’t spend four years getting a degree in philosophy that will get you nowhere, then wind up with loans to pay with the low paying job that you’re lucky to have with no skills. There’s NOTHING wrong with studying philosophy – but you don’t need to major in it, and you do need to find something to study that will prepare you for a job you will enjoy or a graduate program that will get you to a job you will enjoy!

    And how handsome is that young man by the way? And so tall!

  5. We have done most of the things on your list as our oldest prepares for college. She has taken Chemistry and English away from home. These classes have been wonderful. Our homeschool association does a high school transcript–we report grades each semester–and they make sure we’re on track with the credits/courses she has needed. This has been a huge help to me! I think she’s well -prepared for college, and we have a great relationship. The high school she has attended part time is on the same campus as the University she plans to attend, so she knows her way around already. I just hope she is prepared for the amount of work she’ll have at the college level.

  6. This is so good! In a similar boat with my oldest. She’s currently in Moscow studying ballet, so her senior year is abroad and a couple of missing credits are on hold. Then again, she has some pretty cool extra courses added to her transcript! Next year, she’ll return to the US and continue her ballet training and shore up the couple of credits while she seeks employment as a dancer. At THAT point, she’ll consider some kind of part time college study. But getting that transcript set…wow. Gave me a clearer vision with my freshman’s academic studies and plan for high school as well. Unfortunately for him he’s learning from my mistakes and gaps with his older sister haha.

  7. My oldest also graduates this year. I jokingly tell him he’s getting a trial run at the college life. He’s taking classes at our local community college as part of their dual credit program. He started his junior year with an online class and learned that he did not like that format at all. He works PT and has learned to budget his time and $$. He’s paying for his car and insurance. He’ll be attending a school that’s about 2 hrs from home and living on campus. We’ve been available to him but trying to let him make the big decisions and learn from his mistakes…like getting a C on his “easy” Trig test because he didn’t study…it’s hard to loosen the reins but I’m proud of the man he’s becoming. I also have a slightly different game plan for his younger brother who will be a junior next year. I will insist on SAT/ACT prep and we will be more deliberate in looking for scholarships. I gave my oldest too much freedom in that area and he just didn’t follow through like he promised he would.

  8. Jillbert says:

    My oldest is a high school junior. Everything about college is freaking me out — from the competitiveness of getting in to paying for it. He is dual-enrolled in a few classes with a local university so by graduation, he’ll have at least 1 year of college credit under his belt. Still, is he ready? Academically, I’d say yes but maybe it’s more that I’m not ready for this big change in our family dynamic.

  9. My dad always said, “If we can talk, we’ll be okay.” It’s proven true for us and I hope my kids always feel welcome to talk to us about anything too!

  10. My eldest just finished his freshman year out of state and it was a learning experience for all of us. One of the biggest helps for me last summer was a blog called grown and flown. It helped both of us transition to letting go a bit easier. I’ll be looking forward to your suggestions on reducing college costs. My son is taking courses at the local junior college over the summer and I discovered that they have a reduced buss pass you can buy through the schools which helps some. Also renting books and not just from the bookstore is sometimes the cheaper option. Or selling them back on Amazon.

  11. Christine A says:

    Great advice even for non-homeschooled families!!! Thank you!
    Go Gauchos! 😉

  12. I’ve got a 7th grader and am soaking up this kind of info like a sponge. I have not yet made the commitment to home school through high school so your articles are a beneficial component of my research.

  13. Dual credit can be really great and I’m not knocking it, but do be careful before you sign up for it. You need to be sure that not only will the class credit transfer to the university of your choice, but that it will transfer as the type of credit you need. For example, if you take a dual credit calculus class, depending on the university you want to transfer credit to, it may transfer as either a calculus class or just as general education credits. This varies by the university you wish to transfer to, so make sure that you check it out. You may be happy with the gen ed credit, but you may also realize that you paid for dual credit and then need to pay again to take the class at university. We sent our first to university this year, and would not have bothered with some of the dual-credit classes he took in high school for this reason.

  14. You have done a fantastic job preparing your children how fortunate they are.

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