How Do You Recharge?
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The “life as MOM” is rife with challenges as well as joys. It’s important that we have the strength to work at our full capacity. But, how?
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When I was a brand new mom, I remember folks urging me to have “me time.” They went on and on about how important it was to do things for myself.
For some reason, I balked at that. I loved being with my son and husband. I didn’t want or need to do something “for myself”. In a way it sounded selfish.
Over the years I came to realize that it wasn’t “me time” that I needed, but I did need an opportunity to recharge. As more and more children joined our family, as I added projects and a home business to my plate, my day got fuller and fuller. It wasn’t ME time that I needed.
I needed down time, a chance to recharge.
Maybe that’s what those moms meant all the time. Regardless, I’ve come to the conclusion that recharging is necessary. Just like a cell phone that runs out of power, so will we if we use up more energy than we have. And while there’s no “one size fits all recharging station” just waiting for us to plug in, there are plenty of ways to regain our energy as wives and moms so that we can give to our families and work at our peak potential.
Here are some ways that I find to be refreshing and reenergizing:
- exercise
- a good book
- a power nap
- a delicious meal
- an early bedtime
- a balanced schedule
- time spent with playing or reading quietly with my kids
- a bubble bath or other physical pampering
Surely, some of these are solitary activities. But, not all. (Though I do love a quiet house and no one pulling on me or whining at me!)
Recharging my batteries doesn’t have to be all about me. A delicious meal and reading time with my kids are restful for me, but also include my family in the action. Recharging doesn’t necessarily mean being alone or away from my family. It means powering down and refilling my battery.
I definitley love a good nap! I only need an hour, but it such a recharge for me. If I wake up grumpy or just had a rough morning, an hour nap is all I need to finish the day with a more positive attitude!
Whether it’s “me time” “alone time” “recharge time” or something else, the key point is that each of us (this applies to husbands/spouses/partners too) need time to rejuvenate ourselves, to regroup- so that we are able to BE when we are with family or friends… be present, be involved, be active, BE.
Several comments were made about the hurried-ness of society, the social networking, society going at “warp speed” and the detriment this does to our children, our families, our society. We are so busy Keeping-Up-With-The-Jones in material things, in activities, in educational achievements that we get caught up on living WITH today rather than living FOR today.
A few years ago I read The Hurried Child by David Elkind and although the edition I was reading was the 1996 edition, it struck me as relevant then and relevant in the future (considering he was writing in the 90’s and I was reading it in the mid 2000’s and yet it was dead on!).
It was very forward thinking in translating his key messages about how society has come to push children to grow up prematurely, is so focused on competition (my kid got into Harvard), that children have lost their childhood… the lazy days of just playing and being kids, making lemonade stands, playing in the woods/dirt/playground, falling out of trees, pocketing frogs, and much more.
I had been reminded of this about 8 years previous when my nephew was visiting. He’d been coming to visit for a week every summer. That particular summer he was around 8 and every morning after breakfast he would ask “what’s there to do” to which my fiance or I would respond- “go play” yet he would sit there. He had become so accustomed to having everything scheduled or programmed for him, that he his innate creativity, critical thinking, the natural curiosity for exploration had been repressed. Not long after this, his parents made an intentional effort to down-size his activities and to open up the family schedule for unstructured time. It wasn’t long before the “child” in my nephew returned and he was back to running amuck in the yard, playing in the dirt and bringing home worms.
A more recent reminder of how the FAMILY life can impact individuals within the family and that not JUST moms need “down time”- I travel for my job on occasion and am fortunate that often I can take the children with me. After a months worth of me being gone and/or me taking the children with me, one night while doing Favorite Part Of The Day, the 5 yr old says “getting to stay home all day”. A few days later, this was again her response for Fav. Part of the Day.
While our family purposely plans family day, daddy/daughter time, mommy/daughter time, date night and personal days for the grown ups (that’s when I get to sleep as long as I want and do my own agena on my on timeframe.. same for hubby on his personal day), it was a poignant reminder that even the children need down/alone/me time.
So I encourage you to think not just of yourself for needing recharge time, but evaluate the family schedule to ensure all individuals are getting the recharge time they need.
p.s. I also encourage you to consider what special times you set aside for daddy and children for those families that daddy works outside the home or otherwise has less/limited time and opportunity to be with the children so that they too can connect and BE.
I love this post. I have also always balked at the “me time” idea, but I have definitely learned the hard way that I do need time to recharge.
I exercise in the mornings before my family wakes up.
Once a week, I go to Knit Night. (which is basically where I go to the bookstore across the street and knit for a few hours with some of my closest girlfriends.)
About once a month, my husband and boys go out for some activity that I can’t or don’t really want to do, and I grab those times to read, nap, knit, or watch a movie I’ve been interested in.
I try to recognize & honor these times as my recharge time so that I truly appreciate them.
I love that some of your recharge activities include your kids :). I always have had a hard time explaining that it does recharge me to be with my kid or husband. I just needed to see your description not me time, down time :). Or I love a good bubble bath (alone!)