This year marks the twentieth since I graduated from high school and moved away to college. Oh my! I had a very different picture of my future life back then. What’s funny is that I’m so much happier with the current state of things than I would have been if I had got the things that I wanted.
At different times in my young adult years, I wanted to be a fighter pilot, a police officer, a lawyer, and a journalist, preferably investigating crime cases.
Yeah, I watched too much TV as a kid.
As it turned out, I studied in France for a year, came home, got a BA in French Literature, married, became a high school teacher and then retired two years later to be a full-time, stay-at-home mom. At one time, I thought I would never get married. Later, I was only going to have two children. As it turned out, it was pretty tough to have a second child. Now I’m blessed with six children.
My so called “plans” were just that, plans. And, I’m so glad that God had a better plan than I did. Whooee!
Leaving the Past Behind
Like the wrinkled brow of my daughter, so does my own face scrunch up when I remember poor choices and bad decisions of the past. Hubs and I have had long discussions about things we wish we hadn’t done.
In the big picture, we love where we are. But, there are moments and memories that we do regret. Why did we buy that house? Why did we sell that house? Why did we get into such horrible debt?
Life is full of disappointments. You’re no different than the Mom Nextdoor. Each of us can look back and go, “ewww.”
But, certainly, this doesn’t contribute to a more joyful life. Repent of the past, make a decision to do better or different in the future, and make a plan for “next time.”
Don’t Pine for the Future
In some seasons of my life, it seems that I was always living for something more. Wanting to find Mr. Right, get married, have a baby, buy a house, you know the story….
When we were struggling to have our second baby, I pined away for that moment when I would hold another baby in my arms. Yet, when he came – three years later — I realized that I had squandered precious moments with our little family of three. While I was ecstatic to have another child, I was sobered by what I had missed in my impatience.
You may have hopes and dreams you want fulfilled — right now. You may regret past choices that you still feel pain over. You may be allowing the past and the future to rob you of the present.
I know. I’ve been there. I go there still. We can learn from our pasts and we can plan for our futures. But, we need to enjoy today. Embrace the now. And suck every drop of goodness out of what’s going on in the present.
This is the day the LORD has made;
let us rejoice and be glad in it.